Wedding advice for the soon to be Mrs.

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

I was the same as you.  But even on the day of, I didn’t feel overwhelmed from my nerves.  I was the most nervous as I was preparing to walk down the aisle.  But other than that, it was fine!  I am sure you’ll be fine too!

My advice: Don’t sweat the small stuff!  For example, someone got a grease spot (how on earth this happened, I don’t know) on the left side of my dress while hanging it for pictures the morning of… It did not come out.  I have pictures with this spot, but you know what? NO BIG DEAL!! The pictures still turned out great and no one notices that spot but me. 🙂

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

trevino24:  I just asked my sister in law and marrid friends this exact question this past weekend.  I am less than 4 weeks away and it has yet to hit me.  

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think a great way to focus more on the marriage aspect of your wedding is to have special time with your fiance set aside where you can connect just the two of you, without talking about wedding plans and details. Talk about your honeymoon, what you’re looking forward to after you’re married, things you’re excited about, etc. 

It’s really easy to get caught up in wedding planning with all the stress that it brings.. so hit the “pause” button so to speak 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I haven’t gotten married yet but i think it might help you to process some of this anxiety and excitement instead of distracting yourself and bottling it up as you have been. You could journal about your feelings and fears and work out the logic that it will all be okay on paper- yes it is scary and awesome and beautiful all at once but if you become at peace with all these feelings flowing in waves, while keeping the overriding everything-will-be-okay truth in sight by your wedding day you might be more able to go with the flow of your emotions, be okay with them and not startled by them which could snowball into panic. I think a more meaningful experience might be to honor these feelings and acknowledge them and then let them go… “I’m feeling a wave of _____ but it will be okay because of ____” deep breaths! 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

trevino24:  The only time that I got nervous was when the makeup artist was finishing up with me and when I put my veil on! I got really quiet at that point and everyone knew I was starting to feel the nerves. Honestly, they went away fairly quickly and we did pictures beforehand. I felt nervous again walking down the aisle, but as soon as I reached my husband, it all went away and I didn’t feel it again for the rest of the night. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

trevino24:  I actually am nervous about this a bit too. I picked up my dress last week and it totally didn’t feel real. I still have 6 months to go so lots of time for reality checks. My mom however said it won’t actually feel real until I’m talking toward my FH. 

My best friend started the wedding 10 minutes early because she got anxious and just said “F*it I’m the bride and I’m ready to go! Let’s start” lol

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Maybe do ‘first look’?  I think if you see him before, in a private moment, it will help you with the nerves.  Also, have a nip of vodka!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

What are you nervous about?

It was important for me to kinds live through the events of the day. I thought about what it would feel like to put on my dress, to see my husbands face for the first time, to walk down the aisle, etc.

Thinking through the feelings and letting myself experience the emotions helped me so that those emotions wouldn’t hit me all at once like a ton of bricks on my wedding day. I don’t want to pass out while walking down the aisle! lol

So that’s my advice – daydream a lot. 🙂

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

trevino24:  the book The Concious Bride by Sheryl Paul is a great read about the insanity of bride feelings- very affirming. You should read it! 

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