Post # 1
Are you having a wedding after party? If so, are you paying for the drinks for your guests or making it more informal? Also is it ok to invite a lot of your more distant friends to the afterparty if you are not inviting them to the wedding? Do you think that would be awkward?
Post # 3
I think it’s ok to do "cash bar" at the party. I would take that as an implied thing if I were invited to an after party. Yes, ok to invite more distant friends who weren’t invited to the wedding. An e-vite is a good way to "spread the word" without implying "hey come to the wedding too!" Maybe awkward, but you can just say it was small or your venue only held X or whatever.
My after party is midnight+bed+me+FI+passed out in my dress I’m fun. LoL
A friend of mine got married a few years ago at a winery and her reception ended at 8pm. We all took it upon ourselves to go get hammered at a nearby bar since we all had hotel rooms anyways! it was a BLAST! Old people kept coming up to us and talking about how nice we were all dressed and playing Journey and Sweet Caroline. It was great
Post # 4
We are having a pig roast the day after the wedding. Although we are expecting 75 or so people at the wedding, we are expected somewhere between 150 and 200 for the pig roast. For the wedding folks, we are sending out formal invitations, but for the pig roast, we are just spreading the word.
Post # 5
We’re doing an after party at the hotel bar, and that’s a cash bar.
I don’t know how I feel about inviting folks who were not invited to the wedding. Personally, we’re not, and I’m not sure how I’d feel if I was invited to an after party unconnected to the party. I think it’d be a little awkward.
Post # 6
Knowing me and FH – I don’t think we’ll be up for an after party after all the excitement of the day. Even if the reception doesn’t end really late, it might be nice to go and relax at the end of the day. 🙂
Post # 7
We are having an after party that is more like a second reception. We’re having a morning wedding with a brunch that won’t have any drinking or dancing, so we decided to have a more festive party in the evening. That way those that like to party a bit more (ourselves included!) get to do that, something I think people look forward to in a wedding. Especially since lots of guests will be traveling, they get two meals and a full day of activity. Also, those in my family that are offended by revelry don’t have to participate, but they still get to properly celebrate with us earlier in the day.
So having said all that, we are paying to have a DJ, enough hor’s d’eourves to count as a light dinner, and a bar – not sure how open yet. We’re considering paying for beer & wine and having mixed drinks on a cash basis. But since we won’t have had a bar at the first reception, I feel like its still slightly in poor taste to have a cash bar. So we may do beer, wine, and a signature cocktail, or even pay for an open bar if we can swing it.
Post # 8
I remember after my sister’s wedding, the lobby bar of the hotel Peabody became the after party..back when there was no such formal phrase as "after party". We left the reception and all of us just headed over there and enjoyed being dressed to the 9’s in the lobby bar hanging out together listening to the awesome pianist in the lobby they had that night and going up to the Plantation roof to see the stars.
I’ve attended some weddings and the receptions just simply went on and on..I guess it just morphed into an after party. to me after midnight with guests still dancing equals after party!
Post # 9
We are having a "turkish" after party as my fiance is Turkish. We hired a belly dancer and a Turkish band, and plan on serving some middle eastern drinks.
Its going to be in the same space as our reception…just changing music! And yes, we are covering all costs!
Post # 10
We will be having an after party – our reception is at a resort so we will just head to the hotel bar. Since our wedding is open bar we won’t be paying for drinks at the after party.
Post # 11
I have been trying to come up with plans for this exact situation…was considering planning broomball or rock n’ bowl, but decided to reserve a game room at a billards/airhockey/pingpong sports bar. I think we are going to order some appetizers for our guests, but let each person handle their own drink tab. We will only be inviting those who were guests at the wedding.
Post # 12
I don’t get the after party thing. My husband and I couldn’t wait to leave the reception and begin our lives together ALONE. As we left we told the bartender to keep the drinks coming but we were gone and HAPPY!
Post # 13
We’re not having one but there’s really no need. Our reception will go until 2am. The receptions WILL BE the party. That was one of my requirements when planning. I wanted the reception to be party enough that no one would need to go out afterwards because we would have partied ourselves out.
Post # 14
I 100% ditto Meowkers. I plan on the late night part being the best part of it all. Music and dancing and lights and drinking. That’s where I’m putting most of my budget. Our wedding and reception is at our friends’ house. There’s a large back yard area with a bar and a fire pit and every thing. We’ve had the best of times there, so what better place to kick off our new marriage than with our best friends.
IT WILL BE THE BEST TIME EVER!!!!! (I’M SO EXCITED)
Post # 15
I’m trying to organize something but I’m not sure if it’ll work… it would probably have to be either at a hotel or at some bar, which I have no idea about yet! I don’t know the area very well and you have to drive everywhere, you can’t walk…
And yes it would be a regular cash bar, I would not cover any costs really. I don’t think any bar around our venue would ask us to pay a cover or a party fee.
I think that if the afterparty is "loose" and not explicitly advertised then it’s clear that guests pay for their own drinks. However, if it’s a big organized affair that kind of is just the next event after the wedding, then I would assume things are paid for – but I wouldn’t be outrageously offended if it turned out otherwise.
Post # 16
yeah our venue ends at 11pm too early, we definitely still want to party til the wee hours but its an extra $25 each or an extra 750-1000! whew
we’ll probably head somewhere else where people pay for their own drinks; I am going ot wing it; I haven’t decided where yet, it has to have a lounge and a club so peopel can lounge and dance we’ll probably have our dj announce it at the end; Im not reserving because venues can be packed and its uncomfortable, sometimes me and my friends will bar or club hop here in NYC