Post # 1
Any other former ED brides (or mental health professionals) have advice on how to handle wedding planning? The whole wedding industry is so focused on appearance, and losing weight for the wedding is so common…it’s kind of freaking me out. I have my first dress shopping appointment on Monday, and it’s really filling me with anxiety. I had always thought I would be excited for dress shopping! But now that it’s real, it’s like…I’m going to be looking in a full-length mirror wearing wedding dresses, in front of other people…yeah. Big-time anxiety.
FI is incredibly supportive (and even told me that he was worried the whole wedding thing would trigger ED stuff in me before I admitted to him that it totally was), so that helps. I want to be able to enjoy this process.
Post # 3
@sunflower22: are you seeing a therapist? they will definitely help you through it, and catch any warning signs if things start to go downhill. it’s great that your FI is so supportive!
what also helped me with dress shopping is not obsessing about it. I went in, got my dress and haven’t put it on or looked at pictures of me in it since. also, go dress shopping with supportive people, those that will assure you you look beautiful (and you definitely will!).
Post # 4
I’m not a health care professional, but I am someone who has suffered from self esteem issues & anxiety for as far back as I can remember.
There were some things I did that really helped me feel alot prettier on the day of :
– wearing spanx so I didn’t feel so “exposed”
– doing my hair & makeup
If I would have had one that fit properly, I would have worn my own, comfortable strapless bra. The longline bra they put me in was MUCH too small and made me feel VERY unfortable .
And yes, take people with you who don’t make you feel self conscience, and who will make you feel lovely and give you honest opinions about the dresses.