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Wedding and REception

posted 3 years ago in Tucson and Southeastern Arizona

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Leah 1 Jul 09 Portland OR

I can't afford to invite everyone to the reception, what do I do? I'm so torn between this

3 years ago

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tabby 4/17/2009 WV

We are sitting down and making three lists. The first is everyone we MUST have there, the ones we love the most and we wouldn't be here without. The second are our parent's list in order of most important to least. The third list is made up of people that we would like to invite if we can afford it. Several people overlap on the first, there are several people on the second that we know for a fact won't come, but we have to invite anyway. If we have extra slots, people from the third list make it, but it is doubtful we will.

One thing we are doing to make sure that we can invite as many as possible is that we are having an evening wedding (7pm) with an 8pm reception. We are letting everyone know that we are serving appeitizers and dessert only, so they won't expect a meal.

3 years ago

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StevesDeb3 11/23/2009 Tucson, AZ

We are doing something similar to Tabby -

Those we absolutely must invite - aunts, uncles, cousins, best friends (current and former), and friends with a shared history (college roommate, military buddies etc.)

Then folks we would love to have.

Then, we added three columns to our guest list spreadsheet: Probable "Yes", "Maybe" and Probable "No". Because we have many out of town guests, we looked at who would probably not be able to travel for health or financial reasons. They are our probable No's. Those on the love to have list that live in state (but out of town) are maybies and of course immediate family, wedding party and those in town are probable Yes's.

Even so, if all of the Yes and Maybies do show, we're well over. What to do...I read an article about the guest list on Brides.com devoted entirely to the guest list subject. They suggest: "Another way to pare the list is to be honest about your friendships—like the pal you haven't spoken to in more than two years. Chances are you're not the only ones who are feeling social pressure: Your parents or his may try to use your wedding to reciprocate for the weddings they've attended. If the two of you are paying, or if it's an encore betrothal, you should feel significantly less guilty about not accommodating every parental whim."http://www.brides.com/planning/familyguests/feature/article/132041/

3 years ago