Wedding Announcement Question

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@cindalu:  You would put your married name. We eloped as well and the morning that we sent our announcements was the morning that we left for the coast for our ceremony. We put “H&J Last Name”. By the time your guests get the announcement, the ceremony will have been over so technically your name will be all set to change! 

Post # 4
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

PacificMrs:  is correct… they are to Announce your Wedding AFTER it has happened, so you would use what ever format (name & title) on them that you wish to be addressed as in the future.

Mr & Mrs John Doe (no one has a professional title)

Rev & Mrs John Doe (Man has a professional title)

Dr. Susan Doe & Mr John Doe (Woman has a professional title… person with the title always comes first)

Ms. Susan Brown & Mr John Doe (Woman kept her Surname)

Mr & Mrs John Brown-Doe (Woman & Man changed / hyphenated their Surname)


Hope this helps,


Post # 6
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @cindalu:  valid Question…

As pointed out the Announcement would of course be in your Married Name, and if the most formal kind (ie look like a Wedding Invite) then it would have your full name normally (ie Cindy Luanne) which might give the receiver a bit of a clue.

Many would also include a photo, either a Wedding Photo if they are sent a bit after the Wedding itself, or there could be an Engagement Photo of the happy couple enclosed.  People do like receiving photos when there is big life event being celebrated (think Baby Announcements)

OR if none of these work… the Announcement is also often seen as a chance to update people on not only your new marital status but also your change of address…

It would be perfectly acceptable to insert a small printed card, with your new address, upon which in pen you’ve hand written…

Dear Aunt Martha,

Please note my change of address

Love, Cindy-Lu

OR if you are moving with your new Husband to another city maybe elaborate on the note and say

Dear Aunt Martha,

Please note my change of address, I’ve moved from Atlanta to Aberdeen as that is where Paul is originally from

Love, Cindy

Anyhow, times have changed a bit on the Wedding Announcement front from the days when they were very formal cards that looked very much like a Wedding Invite mailed out the day of the Wedding and went to relatives who altho you might not see often corresponded with on a regular basis (or your Momma did).  The majority of Brides choose not to use Wedding Announcements at all.

Personally tho, I still like them, as I think they are a nice touch for just the circumstance you mentioned… relatives you may have that you don’t see often… or when someone chooses to Elope.

In my own case, we went a less formal route, and combined our Thank You Cards and Wedding Announcements into one… we had Photo TY Cards printed, that just said We Eloped, and lots of space to write.  When it was to serve as a TY for a gift we wrote a note, when it was to announce that we married, we let it stand as is, or wrote a different note.  We also got pretty address labels that we put on the envelopes so everyone was up to date on that info as well.

Hope this helps,


Post # 7
6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@cindalu:  So I didn’t do annoucements,but I did do holiday cards which were 4 months after our wedding.


I used a wedding photo and let it be the annoucement to pretty much the rest of my non-Facebook relatives.


None of them have met my H.  They probably never will!  I just put “Happy Holidays!” and “The Smiths” on the front under the photo.  On the back I put “Love, Jane and John Smith.”  So the photo, along with my first name – I think they figured out who I was just fine!


If you have no photo yet at the time of mailing, and you have more than one relative that has your first name, then they can probably still figure out who you are by process of elimination. 

If they truly and honestly cannot figure out which relative you are sans photo, sans maiden name, then I would probably save my pennies and not mail an annoucement to that person!!!

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