Post # 1
We are planning to get married at San Francisco City Hall (simply beautiful venue). Having a civil ceremony, and not inviting anyone. We have no plans to host a reception, etc. Quite frankly, with me in school and chronically ill, we don’t have the money to do something like that.
I’d like to still let people know in a formal manner of our marriage after the fact. With this, I have some goals:
1. Not upset anyone
2. Not make it seem like we are asking for anything (because we aren’t)
If we had the money we would probably try and have a small ceremony, but we don’t want to postpone because of this. People will be missed, but its not a huge deal for us.
What can be said in a wedding announcement for a civil ceremony? I’d like to include a picture either on the announcement, or in a separate photo. And a link to photos from our wedding. It is a historic venue which will make some gorgeous photos.
Post # 3
I’m getting married in Vegas in October, and I am struggling with this as well. Wedding Paper Divas have some lovely postcard annoucements to send out, and they also have some great paragraphs that I plan on changing a little bit to make my own.
Congrats, I love San Francisco, such a lovely city! I am sure your ceremony will be fantastic!
Post # 4
@cindalu: What a great plan! I love it!
The idea/etiquette behind wedding annoucements is that they are to “get the word out” before the news goes through the grapevine. Typically they are sent the day after the wedding and nroomally don’t include a photo. Just an annoucement. Normally these are not known to be gift solicting mailings. Kind of like a baby annoucements – people don’t expect you to buy something for their kid.
However, I think people want to see a photo! I’d maybe not include the link to more photos, but just make the photo card out of a photo or two honestly. Then if they chat with you or email you, you can share the link with them.
I’d just say something Jane and Joe were married privated in SF on This date. Add something cute to the phrase if you want.
There will probably be no way to actaully avoid any hurt feelings IF there are even any. We had no hurt feelings of relatives.
Post # 5
Wedding announcements are perfectly appropriate for your plans. (May I say, SF City Hall is gorgeous. Great venue!)
Like PP said, announcements are generally sent ASAP. If you wait too long to send them, some might think you’re after gifts, which of course isn’t your intention. Will you have these photos up soon after the wedding or will you know the URL ahead of time? Maybe you could spread the photos some other way instead.
Stolen from the Emily Post Institute, traditional wording for the announcement:
Mr. and Mrs. James Welch
have the honor of
announcing the marriage of their daughter
to Mr. Jonathan Jamison
Saturday, the twelfth of June
two thousand and one
You can also send it directly from the two of you:
Ms. Amy Sue Welch
and Mr. Jonathan Jamison
(All announcements that I’ve seen have used two different last names, but I’m not clear on the protocol for couples where one has changed names. If that applies to you, you might want to look into it more, or maybe someone here will know for sure.)
Post # 6
Thanks so much ladies!
We are planning to ask a friend of ours who is a photographer to take photos for us. (We all live in the SF area). I think he could turn around quick enough for us to atleast have 1 photo for an announcement. But I agree that might be a big time crunch, as it would still be a few days before we would even get them in our hands printed, and a few more in the mail. I will check out ones that don’t include a photo, and order them ahead of time so we can get them in the mail the day after the ceremony. I hadn’t heard of wedding paper divas before, but just checked them out. Really beautiful announcements they have! Thanks for the tip!