(Closed) Wedding Announcements?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m sending out announcements to a few people I know would not come to the wedding even if they were invited. For instance, my grandparents are divorced and my grandfather remarried. He’s invited, and my grandmother’s invited… but the new wife is not. My grandfather was very upset so, to appease him, she will get an announcement after the fact.

Post # 4
18645 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think that sending announcements will probably seem like a gift grab no matter what.  We sent invites to people that we hadn’t met (grandmother’s relatives) and they complained about having to buy us a gift even though they didn’t know us.  We didn’t ask them for gifts, we were just told to send an invite to them for announcement purposes.

Post # 5
1696 posts
Bumble bee

Wedding announcements are just a way of letting out-of-town family know that you are now married. There is an invariable social rule that once you are married, you and your new husband must be invited to social events (like future family weddings) as a couple. Announcements are how you make sure that your new status is known.

Anyone who receives one, and doesn’t already know that gifts are not expected in response to a mere announcement, can trivially look that little fact up in their copy of Miss Manners. If instead they’d rather complain about you just wanting gifts, then they’re probably the kind of people who would complain about your standoffishness if you did NOT send announcements.

Post # 7
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we sent them out to a lot of people. i didn’t expect a gift for them, but some people sent them anyway.

Post # 8
1872 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Announcements are simply to announce the marriage and they can also function  to let people know your new name (or if you changed it at all), how it’s spelled, if you moved anywhere, your fiance’s name (and spelling) etc. Unless someone is really unfamiliar with the custom (unlikely), they won’t be taken as a gift request or “nyah nyah nyah we had a wedding and you weren’t there” as some people fear!


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