Post # 1
Our wedding is still pretty far away, next September, but my fiance and I have been talking about options for me to deal with my anxiety. I have had severe problems with anxiety in the past-with some of the worst moments being having panic attacks frequently and getting to the point where I am getting physically sick. I have seen a counselor on campus for this and have worked with her a lot. Now that we have moved I am at a different university currently not seeing a counselor. My anxiety has been almost non-existant but pops up in different situations.
The reason I am fearful about our wedding day, is that at FI’s sister’s wedding I ended up having to go up to the hotel room early because I was just becoming physically sick and very overwhelmed, this occurred at dinner as well but was able to deal with it. I seem to have the most trouble with dinner and feeling too nervous to eat. I also don’t want to leave my reception early, that is not an option for me. We have been talking about maybe seeing a doctor and getting anxiety meds for just that day. There’s another occassion where I could have them to try them once before our actual wedding day.
Do you bees have any suggestions? Really medication is a last resort for me but I don’t want to run the risk of having to miss part of my wedding.
Thanks in advance bees!
Post # 3
I had a panic attack at a friends wedding a few months ago. I had to leave early and go back to the hotel and just breathe. I got really nervous that it would happen at my wedding. What gets me is making small talk. I can’t do it, I run out of things to say, and then I start to feel really uncomfortable and overwhelmed. I realized at my wedding though, I won’t have time to make small talk, even if I wanted to. It’ll be all “so nice to see you! Glad you could make it! How was the drive?” and move on to the next guest. Plus I do better with close friends and family than casual acquaintances. And I can always retreat to the room where I’m getting ready if I need a break. The biggest thing that calms my fears is that my husband will be right there by my side, holding my hand, and deflecting attention. He LOVES small talk.
Post # 4
Let me tell you I was having anxiety attack after panic attack before the wedding. I was terrified that I’d cause a scene at my own wedding, I’d wake up mid panic attack at the thought of embarrassing myself. I even wrote a terrified post on this site to help me deal with it.
I didn’t want to go on any meds just for the wedding so I saw a natropath who gave me some st johns wart & camerone mixture. I took 10mls in the morning and evening everyday before the wedding and it helped A LOT!
But I have to say that apart from some anxiety leading up to the church ceremony the rest of the wedding was WONDERFUL. My anxiety took a back seat while I spent the day smiling, chatting and dancing. I know from personal and recent experience you will probably have a calm and beautiful day.