Post # 1
So my wedding is 4 months away and looking at not just what I have left to do but what the wedding weekend will look like stresses me out! I think about the wedding and how serious it is and what it really means and I have a little anxiety attack. I am terrified to see what kind of basket case I will be the week leading up to the wedding! Knowing me though, thinking about it is 100 x worse than living it. It will probably just be a haze of “okay, so this is my wedding” on the day. But still… ugh… Why am I getting so emotional NOW???
Anybody else have unreasonable waves of emotion and stress about the big day well before the actual day of or even week of?
Post # 3
What you’re experiencing is “normal”. It is a HUGE step to become married and I think it’s a healthy thing for you to be thinking about what marriage entails. I’m sure that the stress of planning your dream wedding is making you more emotional than normal (I was the same way).
I would recommend that you try to get everything finished up a week or more prior to the big day. This will help you to relax and enjoy your friends and family that have surrounded you with their love and support. I would also advise that you come to the realization that you have done everything that you could to make your wedding day a success and whatever happens happens. Focus on fun, laughter, and most of all LOVE!!
Let me know if you need anything else…
Post # 4
::slaps you in the face::
lol. You’re gonna be just fine!
Post # 5
@melisslp: Thanks. Sometimes it helps to put everything in perspective… even if it is only for a few minutes.
@MissHoneyBun: I might just need that in real life pretty soon!!!
Post # 6
Oh…I am starting to have panic attacks when I think of all the details of the wedding. Having stress dreams too!
I’m looking forward to putting it all together and being done with it (and finally be married!)!
Post # 8
i have been having nightmares but mainly just funny ones where my dress is soooo huge i cant figuare out how to use the bathroom lol!!!
Post # 9
Ugh! I’m in school and planning the wedding plus work so the stress is definitely getting to me. Hubs doesn’t get it though and brings up stuff about the wedding when I’m not doing homework. The other day he asked me about when he needed to try on tuxes and I’ve told him every week for an effing month. When I told him May he looked at me like I was a deranged person with three heads and said he had no idea it was coming up so soon and how he’d get off work for that.
So I totally feel you! I know you can do it though!! Weddings are hard work!
Post # 10
Totally normal! I got really freaked out after getting engaged, and wondering if I was making the right decision after pressuring my FI to take the next step. I am getting married Saturday and totally ready now. I think I was in a bit of a panic though for about 4 or 5 months after the engagment. I did read a book called Emotionally Engaged, and it helped me feel more normal about my fears.
Post # 11
I am feeling that way too! 3 1/2 months out…I think since we got engaged 14 months before our wedding date, I’ve felt like we’ve been waiting for so long! Now it is finally here and I think it just will take some old-fashioned pen and paper planning to get organized and realize what needs to get done–that should take the pressure off.
Post # 12
@MrsKitchenQueen: Same here! We were engaged 14 months prior to our wedding date and with suddenly only 4 months left I am freaking out. I kept puting thing off because I had “somuch time” but now we have 138 days left and 128 things to do! (according to The Knot)!!!
Post # 13
I keep having nightmares that I screw up the vows or get pregnant before our wedding!!!!! Plus I am always anxious about the day approaching! WE are doing our own vows and I am FREAKED out! You are not alone. 🙂
Post # 14
aw man one of my friends said that today “gee maybe you’re so tired because you’re pregnant” THANKS just what I need to stres over before a wedding hahahah.
@hedgehog, it’s totally normal to stress, just try and give your self some moments to breath, and don’t worry becaus ein the end you will be happily married, regardless of all the other fluff.
Post # 15
@missmouse29: That is my worst fear! Dont get me wrong, I want to have kids but I dont want to be pregnant in my white dress!
Post # 16
Hi, I’m new here but I just wanted to leave a little comment. You are not alone!! When FI and I got engaged, I went through a whole range of emotions. I remember leaving work early because I was crying. I had not idea why I was crying! Fast forward a few months and we are 3 months away from the wedding. I find myself getting anxious about getting married. I feel a little sweaty, heart rate a little up, and a little stressed out.
I second the recommendation to read Emotionally Engaged. It’s a great book, an easy read, and completely relatable. I also read The Conscious Bride.
PS. The checklist on the Knot is insane. I took a little from that one, another from Brides.com, and finally made my own. The Knot checklist made me feel like I was all over the place and not getting anywhere.