- 3 years ago
My FI proposed last week on our 3rd dating anniversary and we are now trying to get our heads together to decide on what we want to plan. Before we got engaged we had discussed eloping to Italy with a small dinner only reception for our immediately families on our return. We have a number of reasons, we love to travel, we are both introverts (and the idea of a ceremony in front of goodness knows how many people fills me with anxiety) and I have a rocky relationship with my family, being three of the big reasons for wanting this.
What I didn’t anticipate was the reaction we had from our family and friends when we announced our engagement, they were mostly all estatic and very excited for our upcoming wedding. My mum, however, can be very manipulative and has already tried to guilt me in to having a big wedding (complete with me growing my hair out and loosing 100lbs so I ‘look like a bride’) and my FI’s mum has been waiting for her sons wedding for a very long time and has kindly stated that we can get married however and wherever we like but she will be buying a hat and she WILL be attending. Both me and my FI are now feeling incredibly torn, whilst the idea of a wedding at home with guests still makes both of us feel uneasy, we don’t want to exclude our families and upset too many people (whilst we still understand that we will never make everybody happy!). The other slightly complicating factor is the more we look in to the legal aspects of getting married in Italy (we are in the UK), the more the expenses and issues add up, which is putting my FI off.
There is room for compromise here I’m sure, but I really don’t know what the answer looks like and how to go about finding it. If anybody has any advice, any questions we should ask ourselves, or any experiences to help us make this decision, it would be really really appreciated!!
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