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Did anyone have their ceremony, reception or both at one of your parents' house?  Was there any family drama?

Thanks for responding!  We are really early in the planning process (preplanning actually...) but my family knows that he is going to propose.  My Mom made a pitch to me on the phone yesterday about having it at my parents house.  Is some ways, it would be amazing!  But she is also a bit controlling and it is about 8 hours away from where we live, although it is closer to his family.  I will probably be debating this for a little while.  It is great to hear what others experiences have been.

We're having ours on my parent's farm, where I grew up. There are two large front pastures, so we're using the one to the front right of the house, with the woods behind. We were going to use tents, but Dad is leaning towards building a huge new rustic timber barn with a tin roof in that area, and I'm thrilled about that! It benefits me because it's a dream, and it benefits him because he's been meaning to do it for a while and it will be an antiques work shop after the wedding. It will be in late October, so in the middle of the leaves changing, with lots of lights! Our only issue is with Mom wanting to re-do the whole friggin' house before the wedding- I don't want Dad to go through that hell, we we'll have to get her to back down off of that.

I think it just depends on whose house it is and your relationship with those people. We started to plan our wedding at my FH's parent's house, but we couldn't agree on the amount of guests, decorations, food, etc. We felt like we were losing a lot of control over what we wanted versus what they wanted and since it was at their house, we felt like we needed to let them decide.. I think if it is at your parents house, its easier to make what you want known and as much as I hate to say it.. it's easier to fight with your own mom over stuff than try to fight with his mom.

Also, the other thing to consider is cost (if that's important to you.) Originally we thought, oh it will be so much cheaper to have it at his parent's house. But once you start adding up renting everything.. tables, chairs, tent, dishes, port-a-potties, etc it can SOMETIMES, come out to costing more than you would pay to rent a place that comes with some things... just depends on what other venues you are looking at.

Some great advice!  Thanks!