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    hea729@yahoo.com    11/7/09   New Orleans

    I am unsure how to phrase the dress requirements on the invite. I want the men to wear suits and the women to wear nice dresses--they don't have to be floor length, but I want to clarify that some women have different ideas of Cocktail attire. I don't want skirts and a top or an inappropriate "dress" that she would wear to go to a club or something. How do I handle the wording?

     
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    thefuturemrsjewell    August 7, 2010   Washington DC

    What about Semi-formal?  or do you want more formal than that?  Formal or Black Tie Optional

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    I've heard "Formal Attire" is one step up from "Cocktail Attire" Because I was wondering the same exact thing. Since the groomsmen will be in tux's, I want the men to wear suits and the ladies to wear a nice dress and I've been told by other brides to say "Formal" instead of "Cocktail".

     
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    FlipFlopBride       Virginia

    "Try not to show up looking like a whore" should work.

    Juuuust kidding!

    I think you should be fine if you say "semiformal/cocktail attire". Have people pass it by word of mouth. I know a lot of people who ask me what the different dress codes really mean. So make sure close friends and family are informed by word of mouth, and ask them to spread the news.

     
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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    you can say black tie preferred/semi-formal attire prefferred or cocktail attire preferred.  if they have questions about what that means they should call your mom or your bridesmaids or something like that.  if you have an idea of someone who may be inappropriate you can run interference or have a family member or member of the wedding party go with the person shopping for the dress, etc.  unfortunately what is formal/semi-formal to one person isn't the same to another and not many will notice the inappropriate dress and all eyes will be directed to you and your new husband anyway!

     
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    Meggs604       Kansas City, MO

    Is this because of the requirements of your venue or personal preference? I think the best way to word your invites would be to overshoot what you hope for. Instead of "cocktail attire" say "formal attire." But, no matter what you say, I'm sure there will always be someone who dresses a little differently than you would have preferred. Just be glad they came to celebrate your big day!

     
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    Kittyachi    August 2010   New York

    You can never know with people. Even if you put black tie or formal on the invitations, the girl that is going to wear the skanky dress is going to wear it anyway because obviously she has no conception of what is appropriate. I think semi-formal is probably your best bet if you want men in suits and women in dresses, but don't be surprised if you've got an inappropriate outfit somewhere in the mix. Some people just have no clue how to dress appropriately.

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    Someone always shows up to a wedding looking like a $2 hooker... you can give a suggestion (I would say Formal in this case) but everyone has a different perspective as to what is formal!

     

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