Post # 1
Hi ladies! (I assume it’s mostly ladies)
My boyfriend asked me to start looking at rings to see what I like (yay!). I always thought that after I was married, I would only really want a wedding band. BUT I also want to wear a ring during my engagement- I guess I just like the symbolism of a proposal with a ring and something physical to indicate the engagement. I had thought that a good compromise would be to get a diamond wedding band (I like half-eternity rings) for the engagement and add a plain band for the wedding. Do you think this looks nice? Then I started looking on here and fell in love with some of the bigger engagement rings, especially peachy morganite ones. Would it be weird to get one like that for an engagement ring and stop wearing it after the wedding? Money is not really the issue, as I wouldn’t want to spend very much on the rings in either case (maybe even less than the wedding dress, which I’d only wear for one day!).
What do you think?
Post # 2
I think it is totally up to you! I’m in a similar position where I don’t know if I’ll wear both rings after marriage. What you could do is if you love your engagment ring, just wear that after marriage. Alternatively, if you are fairly sure you only want one ring, you could re-exchange your engagment ring in the wedding =) then it would become your wedding ring too!
Post # 3
I like the idea/thought of the half eternity with a plain band, and if you want something separate for the engagement could always have a ring and use it for a RHR after the wedding if go with the two band idea or something else. You do whatever you want- it’s your ring(s)!!
Post # 4
I have a diamond wedding/anniversary band instead of a traditional engagement ring… it’s a half-eternity with channel set round diamonds. I want to get a thinner plain band for my wedding band. Or maybe a different style half-eternity band that’s thinner than my current one… not sure yet. If I decide at some point that I want more bling, I can always get another ring for our anniversary!
I never really wear jewelry, so I like not having to deal with a big stone getting caught or scraped against things (I’m exceptionally clumsy). I also like that if I got a bigger ring down the road it wouldn’t be a ring that I am obligated to wear every day. I like the idea of two bands because I can start a stack if I wanted to – there are so many possibilities.
So obviously I support the two band idea! Your other idea is good too! Sadly there are going to be people out there that judge no matter what you end up doing – so just do what would make you happy.
Post # 5
Mrs.N: I love the idea of a half eternity band as an engagement ring! I think it is simple and elegant. I was considering going that route for a while (though I knew I would want to wear both the plain wedding band and the eternity band once I got married).
Why do want to stop wearing your engagement ring once you get married? Is it because you prefer a simpler, more delicate look? That’s what drew me to the idea of a diamond band at first. I’m not a jewelery person and traditional engagement rings feel ridiculous on my hand. I ended up finding some very delicate solitaires with low-profile settings, however, and I think they look beautiful when paired with a thin, plain wedding band.
Post # 6
Mrs.N: A friend of mine was proposed to with a gorgeous band style ring with diamonds and emeralds. It looked kind of like this .
She wore it throughout their engagement and didn’t get a slim band or anything to use as a wedding band, just used her “engagement ring”. She never wanted a traditional style engagement ring (solitare, three stone, etc). So I think it’s totally up to your preference!
Post # 7
Mrs.N: I love the look of a half eternity combined with a plain band, it’s such a sophisticated choice.
Post # 8
Mrs.N: I like your ideas! What I did is picked out a $200 ring that I wanted to wear until we got married. So I’m having fun with my moonstone ring, but one day I’ll just wear a band. Or whatever. Do what makes you happy!
Post # 9
It’s going to be on your hand, so it’s totally up to you.
There is no rule saying you need an engagement ring. Unless you want one. You could get one of those peachy morganite rings you’re digging on then wear it as a RHR after you’re married.
As for a wedding band? Once again it’s up to you whether you want some sparkle or a plain band.
Post # 10
I went to a jewelry store today and I am back to the idea of a diamond band for an engagement ring, adding a plain band for the wedding. I tried on a few combinations and I really liked it! And since that is what I’ve thought for a while, I’m chalking up the uncertainty to a passing crush and not a true change of heart. I think it will be so pretty!! My boyfriend will be relieved- he is much more confident in his ability to pick a band I’ll like than to pick a more elaborate ring!