Post # 1
I’ve got a lot of decision to make in a short time. I’m recently engaged as of September but we’d like our wedding to be before “wedding season” starts next year, so it will be sometime between January 30th – April 18th. Anyway, my fiancé surprised me with an engagement ring form Tiffany & Co, the classic solitaire setting. He’d noticed I had a small collection of their jewelry and wear it pretty often (though all my other stuff is inexpensive non-brand jewelry).
Anyway, we recently went looking at Tiffany’s wedding bands and planned on getting the least expensive, simple platinum bands, so that we could easily pay for them in full. But it turns out the plain band I tried on looked thinner than my ering, and I had expeced them to be about the same width. Next thing I know, I’m trying on the diamond bands that gave a more balanced look and they looked great! Even my fiancé was surprised…he was given some bands that looked too thin on him, then he was handed a 6mm plain platinum band that looked just right but was $2,500 I think)! I really like our sales associate, but think he’s doing his job and suggesting amazing, yet pricy pieces. It turns out that the bands we liked would cost anywhere from $5,000 – $7,000 (for both his and mine together). This wouldn’t be a problem normally, because we don’t have debt other than 10K in low/no interest loans my fiancé has to pay back. Conbinining our incomes, after all bills are paid, we have at least $2K a month left. However, we don’t have much in savings. We plan to pay for the wedding expenses mostly up front, but will clearly have to charge a few items, whether it’s the wedding dress & bands or our plane tickets & hotel. We don’t plan to charge more than we can safely pay off in a year.
That being said, I am wondering if it would be unwise to get the gorgeous rings we saw at Tiffany’s. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? It feels odd to mix and match my ering with a band from somewhere else, but it may be for the best financially. Please let me know if any of you got your wedding set from different places? Also, not to sound snobbish, but what other brand would make sense to pair with my Tiffany’s ering? We want to stick with platinum (we are not exciting enough to mix our metals lol). I guess what I’m hoping for is a brand that’s sort of in the middle or maybe something simple that isn’t well known but is great quality. Should we just get the less expsensive plain platinum bands from Tiffany…has anyone else done that for their wedding band, even though they looked thin? My other thought is that it would be so easy to get all our wedding ring service at the same store, with the same warranty. If we get the bands some place else, it may be awkward to drop off my ering for service/cleaning at Tiffany, but not be able to do the same for our wedding bands.
This topic was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by moogle.
Post # 2
moogle: Since its a classic solitaire, would you consider moissanite at all for a band? They’d be smaller stones, so you wouldn’t be able to tell a difference between the different stones. They’re much less expensive but just as pretty. Get more for your money- Etsy has alot of options, or you could have one custom made if you wanted.
Post # 3
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Hmm, I would go with what you can afford. Nothing over. In our case, my wedding band cost abour $900. He got it from where he had my engagment done. I felt getting the band from a diffrent store would be odd, as far as matching, the quality of the stones and so forth. DH band was custom made of platinum and gold and had some scroll work engraved into the platinum. His band was $3000. It did not come from the same store where my rings were done. His band was way more than i wanted to spend. and I was a bit miffed at first.
Post # 4
You are paying for the brand name. I would definitely look elsewhere. It should be easy to find platinum bands, even ones with diamonds, for a fraction of the price. No one will know the difference.
Post # 5
moogle: There are sooo many wedding band options that go well with a classic solitaire. You’d be crazy to go into debt over the Tiffany name. Share a pic of what you like and I’ll bet the Bees can help you find an exact replica for a fraction of the price.
Post # 6
Plantinum bands are really expensive but keep in mind they can’t be resize maybe consider getting a different kind of metal or look at a least expensive store. I got my e-ring at kay but got my wedding band at Belden! They are both from the same company but different stores. I purchased my wedding band from Belden cause we had a great deal on it.
Post # 7
Bored6: What do you mean platinum cant be resized? Mine were resized…
moogle: I guess I will be the minority vote and put in a plu for T&Co! If it were me I would look to save somewhere else in the wedding budget as you will have these rings forever and as you said, maintenance will be a snap if all 3 are from T&Co!
Post # 8
Bored6: Platinum can be resized. The metals I’ve heard that can’t are titanium or stainless steel(mostly made for mens wedding bands).
moogle: I’m sure you understand that you are buying the Tiffany name. And there are tons of options or similar rings that would give you the same bang for your buck. but I can kind of understand in that irrational girly way of wanting your rings to “match”. I wouldn’t go into debt for rings but maybe get your matching ring for you and maybe he can get the same plain platinum band from a non luxury brand… to save money? My husband is not big into brand names so he would have been happy with any jeweler who could make a wedding band he liked. But if you both are set on having tiffany you could buy it later as an anniversary present/upgrade and go for something more in your budget for now.
Post # 9
Well I read somewhere that it can’t be resized because it is labor intensive to do than gold is but it is possible if you go to a really good jeweler.
To the OP my fiance is purchasing a Tungsten band for his wedding band. It is more durable than other metals and cheaper. There are tons of other options than plantium bands unless you guys really want to go that route…browse other jewlery stores and pawn shops if you are really tight on money. I would never spent thousands of dollars on a ring.
Post # 10
moogle: in a case like this I wouldn’t go for the name brand for a wedding band if you want to go for a plain platinum band. I would try looking elsewhere first before completely draining yourselves of this. I like the suggestion above about the moissy. I have a simple band and ering and it cost a lot less than just the wedding band your looking at. We just couldn’t afford anymore.
Post # 11
My engagement ring and band don’t match. They are from the same store, but they are different designers. And it’s fine for me.
I wouldn’t do anything that was a stretch financially.
Post # 12
My e-ring and FI’s wedding band are from T&Co. I was talking to my mom the other day about wedding bands and said I was leaning towards getting a non-Tiffany one that looks like the shared setting band, and surprisingly (because she had made plenty of comments about how expensive my e-ring must have been), she said I should just get the T&Co band. She was all for the fact that FI and I could just take all 3 in to get cleaned/polished/checked/etc. (like what wrkbrk mentioned).
Still haven’t decided what to do, but I have plenty of time to decide during my long engagement!
I think if it means enough to you to get the Tiffany band (i.e., it’s worth the Tiffany premium) and won’t cause you and your family any undue financial burden, why not?
Post # 13
moogle: first off plat dosent require much up keep (and that’s why people love it). It never is re-diped only polished.
I’m in the “go with Tiffany” camp if that is what you want. The wedding rings are for ever. The dress, cake, booze is not. i second cutting somewhere else in the wedding for the ring you want.
What about finding them used on eBay or etsy? You get the same quality, name and style for 50%. And can still have them for the little up keep needed
Post # 14
moogle: I got mine as a set, but only because that set was a good value. I personally would have had no problem getting my band from a different store. While we could afford Tiffanys without any problem, we didn’t want to pay for the name. If you do, that is totally fine.
I personally cannot recommend Blue Nile enough. You can get a 6mm platinum band for under $1000 (http://www.bluenile.com/high-dome-wedding-ring-platinum-6-mm_36649?elem=title&track=product ) and a platinum diamond wedding band in the same width as your e-ring for $1,200 (http://www.bluenile.com/french-pave-diamond-ring-platinum_44713?elem=title&track=product)
Post # 15
absolutely_tati: Haha, this made me smile! You spoiled your honey.
TheGridMonster: Glad to hear you aren’t pressed for time…how nice a long engagement sounds to me at this point =] I’d love to hear what band you end up going for, if you care to share.
Pollywog: If we don’t go to Tiffany’s Blue Nile looks like a great option. I’m new to the idea of ordering rings online, but this seems like a good neutral place to go that wouldn’t feel like it was clashing too much with Tiffany’s. The reviews, quality, and pricing look good.
Thank you all for the answers. You all made me feel welcome and happy for signing up at weddingbee! We had planned to get the rings this weekend, but now we’ll wait until Dec or Jan to get them. If we go to Tiffany, we’re going to stay in budget and not get the higher priced ones unless we cut the budget elsewhere or end up with a budget increase. I do keep forgetting we have Christmas/bonuses/raises coming up, but I never like to factor in money until I have it. One year I got a bonus so large I was able to pay off my student loans in 1 fell swoop, but the following year, my company didn’t payout any bonus at all, which is rare. Our parents also haven’t said they’d pay for much if anything, and we don’t expect them to, but it’s always possible they may offer. Either way, this thread put my mind at ease for now. My fiance and I will take another month or 2 to evaluate the rings. In the mean time, I can distract myself trying on wedding dresses, since that is one of the more urgent purchases to make 😉 If anyone else wants to add to this thread, please do!