Post # 1
So we picked up wedding bands last night- YAY! They were both custom made. Both rings are 18k rose gold.
Total for my ring (upon discussion at dinner after paying- kinda put on the spot) was realized to have been around twice as much as estimated…..$500 vs $250-300 and I expected it to be a lot bulkier (didn’t really try it on and look at it closely until getting home- I was too giddy)
Total for FI’s ring $1500…and now goof ball wishes he’d had the outsides done in white gold (smh) but its a tad bit too big so we’re going to take it in after the wedding to be resized.
Here’s my dilemma–I’m just really not happy with what mine is for what we were charged esp after seeing it be so freakin small compared to my ering and FI’s. Plus the fact that the “2 month” job turned into “6 months.” And I kinda just don’t like how it looks with my ering compared to the much bulkier wax. Its just too small IMO. Fiance was super sweet about it and said we could have another one made in a year or two but I’m not happy about spending the money for what we got and really don’t want to wait until later.
Am I out of my mind to call the jeweler and talk to them about what my options are?
In store, alone-
In the correct order-
Difference in width-
In wrong order (looks better to me)-
Shameless ring porn because they really do do a great job-
Post # 3
@jpalm13: I don’t think it looks bad at all. I could see how you might want it about another half a mm thick. If he took that long to make it in the first place, would you have a new one in time for the wedding?
Post # 4
@jpalm13: i think it looks fine but you are the one who has to be happy with it. i would have mentioned something regarding the huge price jump though.
also, if your fi’s ring is too big, get it sized now before the wedding. i’m not sure when and where you are going for your honeymoon but i have heard of too many guys losing their wbands on their honeymoon b/c they didn’t size it beforehand.
Post # 5
I actually really like it as is! But if you’re not happy, you should talk to the jeweler. Did you agree upon a mm thickness? And is it not what you asked for? Or are you just surprised that it doesn’t look like you imagined? If they made a mistake, they should correct it…if you just changed your mind, it’s less likely they will want to fix anything because it isn’t their mistake.
Post # 6
I think it looks great! But i have NO idea why it took 6 months to get those done.
Post # 7
@BluePeaches: No we’re having it resized after the wedding. Last night though, he tried it on again and it fit fine so we’re going to see how it fits all Saturday long. We had extremely cold weather when we picked them up and he was freezing cold. May have just been that day but we’d be taking it back after the wedding (at their reccommendation)
@mypinkshoes: The thought crossed my mind but I guess I just didn’t want to be rude? (that’s a first haha) If it still need resized after our trial run this weekend, he’s just going to wear the titanium band we got him for when he works outside on the honeymoon.
@BlondeMissMolly: We did and she assured me it’d be the same thickness as my ering. I even offered to let them take my ering so it would definitely be at least very close, if not exact, and she said it wasn’t necessary. On one hand, I’m glad she didn’t take it given how long it freakin took. On the other hand, I wish I would have made her so it would be the same thickness.
@Swizzle: Us either, it was only supposed to take 3 months. We actually ordered these the weekend after Fiance proposed at the beginning of November. My ering was supposed to take one month and wound up taking 2.5!
I’m glad you guys think it looks fine together though, I feel a bit better about it if they won’t do anything to it.
Post # 8
@jpalm13: well if you agreed upon a width and it’s not what it’s supposed to be then I would make them fix it. But just from my perspective it does look the same width in that palm shot. It looks like the band is more half round and hugs your finger better but the width looks very close. Maybe it’s more noticeable IRL though.
Actually now that I’m looking more, do you mean the height off your finger? That I can tell is different. But the actual width of the rings looks the same in that picture.
Post # 9
@BlondeMissMolly: Is that what it would be called (height)? The width is 2 mm and perfectly fine. Its the height or depth of the ring. My ering is substantial and the lack of that in the band is what I’m upset about. I did talk to the jeweler and she’s going to come up with some options for us so we’ll see what happens.
Post # 10
@jpalm13: Personally, I think the rings look great together! I love pave with a plain band. I have a 2.5 – 3 mm white gold pave engagement ring and a 2mm titanium wedding band. I don’t think they have to be the same size.. and like when they are not because they are two different rings with two different meanings. But, you have to wear it everyday so you should be happy with your discussion. Maybe give it a day or two. 🙂
Post # 11
@jpalm13: ok yes I totally see what you mean then and that might drive me nuts. I just kept looking at the width and thinking it matched. I think they call it height…but I’m no jeweler! It looks like your wedding band is more dome shaped and your engagement ring is more square and that’s why it’s not a perfect match.
Edit: here’s an example from bgd. Under measurements it says the width is 2.5/2 mm. Then height says 1.4/2 mm. So I think that’s the issue is that the vertical height doesn’t match. And I think that would bother me as well so hopefully they can fix that!
Post # 12
I like the band, personally. But if you are not satisfied, you should most definitely call the jewler and let him know. 2months to 6months is a big discrepency. As is the price quoted vs what you paid. If anything, I think you should be refunded some $$.
Keep us updated!
Post # 13
@BlondeMissMolly: She knew what I was talking about so crossing fingers they’re able to do something simple to it! The band does look to be more of a half dome in the picture but in real life its shaped a bit lower to coordinate with the ering.
@drA: YES. If we’d gottten these when we were supposed to, this would already be solved.
Post # 14
I also like the bands together, but if you are unhappy with them then I think you should try to resolve that with the jeweler.
Post # 15
I’m a firm believer that if you go the custom route, the jeweler should do everything in his/her power to make sure you’re 100% satisfied! My e-ring is custom as well as our wedding bands and our jeweler always made sure things were perfect for us throughout the process, even if it meant starting over (which luckily we did not need to).
I can see the difference in the height and how different the bands are shaped – if that doesn’t make you happy I would tell your jeweler especialy if the bands were supposed to match! When we got my wedding band made, our jeweler took my e-ring for a couple of weeks to make sure they’d match but mostly so the pave diamonds matched. Did your jeweler make your e-ring? They should have had the specs on file, if notI’m surprised they did not take your e-ring to make sure everything matched up!
Post # 16
@arabesque: They did make it and Fiance and I are thrilled with it! I was really surprised she didn’t want it. We measured underneath the diamond’s basket (tulip head ring) to make sure it would sit flush and then we had the measurement for the height (as I’ve now learned its called). They really do a fantastic job on their jewelry so I wouldn’t write them off over it. I was just unsure if I had any sense to call them about it or not. I thought it was a ‘too late now’ kind of thing.