(Closed) Wedding Band Etiquette

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Not sure what others do, but I already know what band I’m getting because it matches my e-ring. I am having my FI pick his out because he is very picky. 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Go together for sure. 

We kept ours side by side on his nightstand. Ours don’t match to one another, but I do like when they match.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t know if there is really etiquette on this, but here is how our shopping went down. I actually bought mine without FI. We had been shopping previously and had an idea of what each of us wanted, and I went to get my cleaned one day and the band I picked out happened to be on sale for almost 50% off, so I scooped it up. A couple months later we bought FIs when his was on sale. Ours are th same metal (white gold) but aren’t part of a set or anything like that. His is plain and mine has diamonds in it.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We went together.  I think that is what most couples do.  And we bought the rings together.  We bought a house and combined finances before the wedding, so pretty much everything we’ve bought since then has been bought together.  I don’t see anything wrong with you each paying for your own or for each others, or however you want to do it.  Every couple sets up their finances differently.  Whatever works for you guys is what you should do.

I gave my fiance the job of holding the rings before the wedding.  If your fiance is like most, you are doing most of the wedding planning.  It was that way for me and it was nice to give him a responsibility so it was one less thing on my plate.  As for matching the rings, I think on average, most people choose to have theirs match.  But it is really a personal choice.  Ours match (fiance didn’t care, so I decided we’d both have white gold), but I doubt most people would ever notice yours don’t match.  The only time I ever notice if rings match is when I’m looking at wedding photos just of the rings.  And even then you could likely do some cool shots with your e-ring & wedding band in white gold & his wedding band in gold.  

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We picked them out together. Well, kinda. We picked mine out together and then I surprised him with his on Christmas. He didn’t think he was going to be able to get his until later (using a family ring until we could afford to get him the one he wanted) but I found it on a crazy steal and snatched it up! lol. They are both sitting in our closet in a bag waiting for the big day!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Well I think most couples go shopping to pick them out together. I do think that you should buy his for him and he should buy your’s for you since they are suppose to be gifts. If you want them to match that is a personal preferance. For us, his is black and mine is white.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

There aren’t any rules of etiquette for shopping for wedding rings… You need to decide as a couple what you want to do.

For my e-ring, DH and I went together to pick it out on the anniversary of our first date. Then later, we went together to pick out wedding rings.  I paid for his wedding ring myself, but we put it on his CC so I could get the discounted price and then I paid him back.

I think it’s find if he wants yellow gold for his wedding band. There is no rule that says they have to match.  I know my mom’s wedding ring set is white gold and my dad’s is yellow gold. Again, it’s a personal thing.

You get to make the rules when it comes to rings!!!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

FI and I went and picked out our wedding rings together.  Mine is white gold with all diamonds and his is black.  I’ve got my style and he’s got his 😉  I think you should both pick what makes you happy.  If you both love one style, go with it.  If not, matching is not at all a requirement.  

Also, I’m the same as others.  It’s hard to say who paid for what, since all of our money goes into a joint account together.  Technically I swiped the card, so I guess I paid for them both 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

we went to together and DH found his. i tried to find mine but nothing matched my e-ring. it got discouraging so we said we would go back.  then i was home for the holidays and a jewelry store was having a mega sale and i found the perfect band so i ordered!  circumstances had it thought that i had to go pick up his ring when it was ready and he to pick up mine (because we were then in opposite ciites to where we ordered our own).  but i liked that it worked out that way.

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