Post # 1
I LOVE my ering. It is twisty-turny and looks like three bands fused into one. I am happy to have this little jewel for the rest of my life! But for the wedding, we need a “band” right?
So, we went shopping for wedding bands and there are some lovely ones out there that “go with” the ring just fine, but I’m just not feeling it… It seems excessive to have band after band on my finger.
Then I had an idea… what if I ask for a bigger center stone rather than a wedding band? My FI is open to the idea. What do the bees think? Anyone done that before? Any other alternatives to a wedding band that anyone recommends?
Post # 3
I would 100% get a wedding band. I personally would not be able to go without that symbol from our vows and from our wedding day. It is something that is really important to me and making my e-ring bigger/blinging just doesn’t hold the same meaning IMO.
If you don’t like the way the band looks with your e-ing, you could move your e-ring to your right hand after the wedding and just wear the wedding band alone on your left hand.
Post # 4
@Mrs.KMM:I agree I think wedding band has so much symbolic meaning behind it that I wouldn’t be willing to give it up. Without a band I just assume people are engaged not married if I see their ring.
Post # 5
I would go fot the bigger stone
I would use the e-ring as the ceremonial ring. Just my opinios hehe. I like big stones i guess 😀
Post # 6
Oh, yeah, if I did the ering alteration, I would send the ring off before the wedding and my FI would get it and not give it back to me until the ceremony… it would be the ring he puts on my finger.
That ring has so much meaning to us too… he proposed to me 3 times! Once without it, then again when we had just bought it (but I didn’t have it because it was getting sized) and then when it was ready, he picked it up and hid it for awhile and re-re-prosposed to me, finally with the ring, on the new tile floor during our first week that we were finally able to enter our newly remodeled kitchen! So, it has lots of symbolism to us.
But I see what you mean about everyone else… the ering “says” engaged whereas the wedding band “says” married. I didn’t think of that.
Post # 7
Sounds good to me! Can you sell your other stone? Just curious in how that would work, especially since diamonds are so expensive. I’m not sure that a band would be as expensive as a bigger diamond. Either way, I like the idea best because your ring is already thick enough 🙂
Post # 8
@Miichelle: I totally understand that your e-ring means a lot to you. Mine does too and I find it so special that DH picked the perfect ring with no help from me whatsoever. But my wedding band also means a ton to me (more so than my e-ring) and, at least for me, using the e-ring for the wedding ceremony still doesn’t hold the same symbolism as a separate wedding band.
What do you think of wearing the e-ring and wedding band on separate hands so that your left hand doesn’t feel too thick/wide with rings?
Post # 9
I don’t like wearing my wedding band, personally- it kinda bumps around and dings into my ering. I think it has gotten worse, started bothering me more- since it is cold outside and my fingers shrink and so I notice it more. I would prefer just one ring, myself, so I have been wearing my wedding band on the other hand. You could always get a cheap wedding band- that’s what I did!
Post # 10
On my right hand ring finger, I wear my promise ring which is a blue topaz and diamonds… My FI got me the promise ring six months before we were engaged. I wear it everyday, too.
The jeweler said that sometimes people get their wedding band fused to their ering so it’s all one thing. But we weren’t sure if that would work with mine since it already looks like it has an “enhancer” on it (a band on both sides), giving it the look of 3 bands in one.
Post # 11
I voted for the bigger stone. Like you mentioned, it already looks like you have bands attached. Its beautiful the way it is. You don’t NEED extra bands unless you want them.
Post # 12
@ kperry3 We got the ring at Kay’s. I think they will do an upgrade – buy back the centerstone as long as we put a certain amount of money into another one… like a trade-in? I have to look into the details to see, as someone mentioned, if it makes sense budget-wise.
Post # 13
I vote wedding band. I love having my band so that I can just wear it at times, and not my e-ring too, like working in the yard. but also, I love how it symbolizes our wedding day and vows. like adding it to my ring was adding the next chapter of our lives.
Post # 14
@Rosie Girl – I didn’t think of it that way “the next chapter”… that is nice.
Post # 15
I would get a band and wear it on your right hand.
Post # 16
I said “alternative”.
I personally want to get a plain wedding band, and the reason that I say this is because I know that I am hard on jewelry and if SO takes the time to get a beautiful ring for me, I’d be scared of damaging it. I would like to have the plain wedding band as backup, so for more demanding things I could swap the nice ring and just rock a nice plain band.
You don’t have to wear the two together, but not only would it give you a band for the ceremony, but then you have a backup for when you don’t want to worry about hurting/losing your beautiful engagement ring, and you still have a symbol of your marriage and commitment.