Post # 1
I need some help making a decision. I LOVE my engagement ring – it’s not too big, it’s got a vintage feel to it, the center stone was a family heirloom, and it’s just unique and totally me. BUT, I don’t know what to do about a wedding band.
You can see from the pics below that as is, the ring is big enough for my hands (I have ridiculously small hands – the ring is a size 4 but it needs to be resized to a 3 – crazy!) I don’t want to get a set that would go above and below the ring because that’s too much (for me, at least) and I don’t want to get just a band below because I think that ruins the symmetry of the ring.
So I was thinking of either doing no band or doing a simple band with beveled diamonds to match the band on the E-ring but I would wear that band on my right hand. Is that weird? What would you do?
Post # 3
I would get a band to wear on your right hand! Your e-ring is gorgeous and if you don’t like the look of it with a wedding band on the same finger then don’t do it. I once read that someone wore her wedding band on a different finger on her left hand and when she was asked about it she said “well I love them both so much that they deserve their own finger”. I thought that was cute and totally appropriate – nobody would think it’s weird to wear your band on your right hand!
Post # 4
That is one fantastic ring!
I really don’t think that you need the extra band. If it were me (and I really wanted a wedding band) I would wear the engagement ring on my right hand and the wedding band on my left.
Post # 5
@ArwenBride: Thanks! I see what you’re saying about switching the hands. I think I’ve gotten used to having it on my left hand and for economical reasons, I lean towards no band…but sometimes I think I want one….
Post # 6
@littlemissmoo: Thanks! And I love that – each ring gets its own finger!
Post # 8
i’d still get a wedding band, even if you wear them on separate hands. that was my original plan, although i’ve come to realize that i actually really like the look of a plain band with my e-ring, even if they don’t sit flush against each other.
Post # 9
Gorgeous!! You could go with a really small band that is made to fit around your ering or even one that sort of goes under it, is your ring higher up or flush to your finger? i just got a new ering that is pretty high up and the stone is pretty large. My fingers are a lot larger than yours (size 6-7 depending on ring) and I find that I didn’t necessarily “need” a ring, but I wanted one because I feel it’s important to have one. It’s totally a personal preference though.
Post # 10
I could never not have a wedding band – I cherish its symbolism (that is totally different from the symbolism of an e-ring) too much to be missing that for the rest of my life. And I wouldn’t feel like I could decide to get one later as it wouldn’t have been there for the promises of the wedding day.
If I were you, I’d get a wedding band (in whatever style you like) for your left ring finger and, post-wedding, move the e-ring to your right hand.
Post # 11
Regardless of what your e-ring looks like, it sounds like you a) don’t want the asymmetrical look that having a wedding band on the same finger as your e-ring creates, and b) don’t want to do two wedding bands to create symmetry, so it seems that a right-hand wedding band is the way to go. Unless you have some desire to go without a wedding band entirely, I would definitely say go ahead and get a band. I think it’s wonderful to have a symbol of love and commitment that you can exchange with your husband as you say your vows to each other, and going without a wedding band sort of prevents that.
But, if it were me, I would actually wear a thin wedding band on the same finger as your e-ring. I love the asymmetry of a thin wedding band below a larger e-ring.
Post # 12
I’m having the same problem as well, my ring requires a curved wedding band and I just don’t like them. I am heavily considering forgoing one at all, but it does feel weird not to have a wedding band. I think perhaps a plain one that you can wear on the next finger or when you don’t wear your ering (like while traveling) might be nice. My FI thinks its totally weird to have a right hand ring or to switch my ering to my right hand so I don’t know what to do!
Post # 13
I would go to some jewlery stores and just see how different bands look! It’s fun just to play with different options and you may be surprised how well (and different) they look in person.
Post # 14
I just have an ering & love it, it fits my finger perfectly (never had a ring fit me so well) & I’m a size 4.5. I don’t want to wear it on my right hand (partly cause it fits me so well) & I don’t want to wear 2 rings on the same finger, either.
I didn’t get a wedding band. If I do in the future, I’d wear it on my right hand. For the ceremony, we used our promise rings. I don’t think you have to get a wedding band, but if you want one, go for it. My plan was to get wedding bands on our honeymoon, but couldn’t find any that would work. We were bummed at first, but I love my ering & so it worked out great. For me, my ering symbolizes both his proposal & our commitment to each other.
Post # 15
gorgeous ring! i think i’m agreeing with @awrenbride. def get the band and wear the rings on separate hands.
Post # 16
your E-ring is beautiful!
my E-ring is pretty big for my hands too, so if i wear them both, i will wear my E-ring on my right hand and wedding band on my left hand, or vice versa. i don’t think there’s anything weird about it 🙂