Wedding bands. Do we have to?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
3271 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

You certainly don’t have to. The wedding band is typically worn closest to the heart on your ring finger.

Post # 4
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

No, you don’t have to wear a wedding band. Both my mother and mother in law wear just a ring with diamonds on it. My mother in law had her set stolen long long long ago so her husband bought her a new ring and she wears it as both and my mom and dad recently upgraded her ring for their 30th anniversary.

My cousin who recently got married just wears her engagement ring with no band. So yeah, you don’t have to wear a wedding band and an engagement ring!

Post # 5
970 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@stbt125:  Like PP have said – you absolutely do not have to have a wedding band. You can wear it all the time, or depending on your career (I’m a nurse and a lot of people wear just their wedding band to work because it doesn’t stick up) you could just wear it to work, etc. The wedding band typically goes closest to the heart…so on the inside of your hand rather than closer to your finger tips. A couple girls I worked with actually didn’t even have a wedding band and wore just the engagement ring.

Post # 6
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You do whatever you want!  That’s what you do :). 

I had a college professor who started the first day each semester, after he introduced himself, where he would point out he was wearing a wedding ring, that he was happily married, but you wouldn’t see that ring again all semester because he loathed jewelry.  He was a very personable caring man, he even gave me a ride home once when the weather was bad as I was the only person in our class to take the bus home (and transfer), leaving class at 10pm.  While you felt you could talk to him he was also very proper and I think his ring/speech the first day helped him draw the lines so there was no confusing in how easily approachable he was… because he was just a very charismatic man who had strict ideas of “proper”… I hope that makes sense!

Personally I wear the engagement ring then wedding band… because logically (to me obviously) the engagement ring came first and wedding ring after, I also see it as the engagement ring was a promise to marry then the wedding ring came next and sealed the deal.  Not to mention (logically) if we were wearing the wedding ring closest to the heart it would be on our thumb… or pinkie if the ring had to be on a “finger”.  I 100% understand this isn’t the common view, and I don’t care (nor does DH, I did ask him)… but it would just look odd to me to have the band then the engagement ring.  It’s been over a year and no one has said anything to me (and I was married 4 years previously and no one said anything then either).  I don’t care what anyone else does though.


Post # 7
784 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I do not plan to wear a wedding band. I do not like the look of a band with my ering…I think it takes away from the simplicity and look of the ering. This is my choice. I just love the simple solitaire by itself. I do have a very thin (1.5 mm) white gold band that I may occassionally wear, but most likely not. My mother has a 4 ct 3-stone ( 2ct center, 1 ct on each side) ring that serves as both her ering and her wedding band. No one questions it.

Post # 8
2129 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You don’t HAVE to wear a band if you don’t want to. I only wear a single ring as my “wedding ring” ever since I got my upgrade last month. I didn’t like the feel of multiple rings on my finger on a daily basis, but I know lots of people don’t mind. When I see women wearing two rings I generally see the wedding band on the bottom and the e-ring on top, but there aren’t any rules. You can wear them however you want. Your husband would put the ring on your finger at the ceremony and then you’d wear it after that.

Post # 9
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014


@stbt125:  No, you don’t have to wear a wedding band!! However, some people may think you are still engaged by just wearing an engagement ring after you are married, but if that doesn’t bother you and you don’t see the point of the band then don’t waste your money on it! (: If you change your mind you can also add one later.

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