Post # 1
I know this must seem like a completely strange question, but I want to know… who is “suppose” to pay for the wedding bands? FI’s mom said that I am suppose to buy his and he is suppose to buy mine. My mom said that he is suppose to buy both. Then my aunt said that I am suppose to buy both, since he bought my engagement ring.
Honestly, FI and I work our finances to where it isn’t going to matter who swipes their card at purchase, and it certainly isn’t going to break “my” bank to make these purchases, I was simply curious.
Post # 3
it’s up to you as a couple I guess. talk with your FI and whatever works for you.
Post # 4
Its whatever works for you both. We bought each others.
Post # 5
i really don’t know. i guess it’s up to the couple. isn’t it usually combined with the wedding budget?
my dh bought me my diamond eternity band. it was not cheap.
we also got me a plain band and i can’t remember who paid for it. dh picked out his band. i think he paid for it.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
I’ve only heard that people buy each others. We used our wedding fund to pay for them both, but I swiped when we got his and he swiped when we got mine. We went shopping together though (well, his was an online purchase but he was there when I ordered it and when I picked it up).
Post # 7
I always thought you were technically supposed to buy each others. Our money was basically combined at that point, so it didn’t really matter who paid, it was ‘our’money.
Post # 8
we bought each others’. whatever works for you! he offered to buy both, but I wanted his ring to symbolically be ‘from me’. :}
Post # 9
Tune out your family members and do what YOU and Your FI wants to do.
Post # 10
We bought our own. Mine was more expensive than his and it felt like it was my turn to buy the expensive ring.
Post # 11
FI and I are in a similiar position, our funds are basically combined, and there is really no “mine” and “yours”. I figured FI’s mom was correct, she usually always is. Plus, her answer seemed most reasonable. FI is fine with whatever, since ultimately we’re both paying for both, it is just a matter of who “swipes”.
Post # 12
I swiped the card because his was actually twice the price of mine, but we basically considered our money as the same now. My mom and grandma were not happy that he wasn’t officially paying for mine, but didn’t press the issue, since really it doesn’t matter!
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
My FI refuses to let me buy the wedding rings. They’re both pricey we’ll shell about 3k on those rings. I offered to buy his, but he refused to let me. Note FI makes more money and knows it he covers most of our expenses. I cover my phone, car, insurance, my kid, my school costs, 90% of the food costs, and about 50% of the incidentals for the house. FI views all the money as collective even though its in separate accounts though so it doesnt matter at this point in our eyes. If he couldnt cover a bill I’d pay it in a heart beat everything is ours not mine or his. We have the lease in our names and will transfer the cars over in the next few months. I’m his benificiary and legal right of attourney as well. So to us doesnt matter though wont lie he pays the most.
Post # 15
Hmm, honestly I am not really sure who is supposed to buy what. We were pretty untraditional about the whole thing. I paid for half of my e-ring even though he tried to talk me out of it, but I felt it was fair I paid half. Then I bought his ring (super inexpensive) and he paid for most of mine. The reason I said he paid for “most” is because I gave him an amount of $ and he transferred that to me. Then at the last minute I decided on something a little more expensive than what I had originally picked out and just paid the difference myself. I mean we’re going to be merging finances anyway, so it doesn’t really matter at the end of the day who pays for what.
Post # 16
Traditionally it’s supposed to be your wedding gift to your spouse. So the bride buys the groom’s, and the groom buys the bride’s. And then you give them their gift at the altar on your wedding day 🙂 That’s how we did it but there’s really no rule about it! 🙂