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@manders83: First off, welcome to the hive. :)
The thing I like about this community is that you can look up pretty much anything wedding-related and someone will have a post on how to do it, what it was like, or discussions about whether to do it or not. You can use it for wedding planning, learning from others, or even just to get ideas. Stick around; you might find you like it more than you think you do!
haha vagina!
I am kind of new myself, but I am having lots of fun sharing and getting ideas..
Sorry to hear you are not adjusting well to the move..moving right in the middle of wedding planning would be extremely difficult..
If it makes you feel any better I went dress shopping solo because my mom and grandmother can be almost hostile with their opinions...so now the dress is bought and everyone just has to at least pretend to like it 
To change things click on "view your profile" at the top and click "profile"
@Miss Longcoat: Thank you!! :) It really has given me ideas i never thought about. Still trying to get the hang of things on here :)
Welcome to Weddingbee! It takes a little while to get used to it here but it's worth it. No one is ignoring you on purpose, some threads and times of day don't get as much traffic so you won't get as many responses. Just try to hang out for a bit, it's a lot of fun here!
@Irishb: haha that's what we say a lot to each other over here. My FI will tell me (jokingly) don't be such a vagina... I say I have one so it's ok if I am one sometimes!
I'm sorry you had to go alone. I told everyone I would go alone, my FI doesn't want me to do it by myself. Which is nice, but still.
I'm sure everyone will love your dress! My FI and I have different dresses in mind, so hopefully we can agree on something!
Thank you :)
@manders83: Hi there, welcome to WB!
This is a diverse community with lots of help, advice, ideas and inspiration.
Everyone was a newbee at one time. The key to getting responses, or people being more likely to respond to you in comments or discussions is having a different and memorable username and avatar. Do a quick search for names similar to yours, if you find any perhaps you could change your username to something that sticks out more. People recognize you by your name and picture only, so make sure they stand out.
The best way to get responses to a thread is to title it in a creative and interesting way so that people will be intrigued to open and read it. Keep your posts as short and sweet as possibe, as the very long ones will more than likely not get read in their entirety. Also, if you want lots of different takes on the matter and need lots of comments, time your posts during prime times of WB traffic. Don't post really late or really early in the morning. The last thing posted will go straight to the top of the boards and gets bumped down by every thread that is commented on while yours goes unanswered. Pretty soon, with all the new threads, your can be bumped back into pages 4, 5, or 6 where it is uncommon that someone will page through to find it and respond.
If you have any other questions, feel free to message me. I'm always around and know some things (but definitely not all things). Don't be afraid to jump into conversations with people with lots of posts, newbees tend to get forgotten in the jumble unfortunately. Don't let yourself be forgotten :)
@MissAsB: Thank you :) I'm already feeling better.. thanks ladies :)
@manders83: Sweety I know Exactly how you feel!! I have absolutely no friends, sisters, or any fam helping with wedding planning, and am doing it completely solo. It gets overwhelming but just know the main point is that you are marrying your best friend and have fun with the planning!
Actually I posted about this earlier, haha. The girls here are really sweet and helpful. Just know you can ask us any questions. :)
@julies1949: Thanks! I'm going to check that out!
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: thank you :) that is very helpful! How do I change my name? I tried going to my profile, but I don't see anywhere to change my name?
@LadySapphire: you are right! thank you! I'm trying to still have fun with it even though sometimes it gets a little depressing. I like reading people's posts. It makes me feel like I'm not the only one having certain feelings. are you far away from your friends and family too?
@manders83: unfortunately you cannot change your name. You would have to create a new account with a new name. My recommendation is that if you have any feeling that you may want to change your name, do so now while your post count is low. You could easily attain 45 more responses with a new name that you liked better if that is what you want to do. Good luck hun, and have fun!
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: I figured.. thank you :) I'm not very good with coming up with names for myself. And I think the only one i could think of is being used.. or very similar.
Welcome to the Hive!
We all have those post that either get no or few responses. I am a late at night poster so I am usually on when you prob are. Feel free to jump onto any of the night chats, that is how I got to know a lot of the Bees and there are several in your area on at that time. Or, if you are just bored and feel like a chat, feel free to PM me anytime and I will jump on ( I have a lot of free time at night).
@tksjewelry: thank you! I never really pay attention to the time... I'm 6 hours different from my friends and family.. But sometimes I do post at night when I come home from work.. and some places that's like 4 in the morning haha.. I didn't know they had any kind of chat on here?
you ladies made my day.. i know that's probably silly, but it's nice to know people actually care on here! 
thank you
@manders83: Yes, my cousins are across the country. I live with my parents but it still seems like I'm going solo cause I don't really do the 'girl talk' thing a lot, lol.
My FH is trying to help plan, and he's doing great. He planned the entire honeymoon. But when I need a girl to smack ya upside the head and tell me that I need to chill and smile, well, I come to the bee. :) Thankfully though my FH is my best friend and he does all the girly shopping trips with me, haha, he's a true sport!
Welcome! I wish I had some sage words of wisdom for you here, but I don't. Having to plan your wedding basically by yourself sucks. However you have come to the right place, there are oodles of ladies here happy to give advice, opinions and ideas.
I looked through the topics you created to see why you're getting such low participation.
Tip #1: Post in the appropriate forum. You posted looking for a bridal shop in the Accessories forum. It may have confused some people. (I moved it to the Hawaii locals section for you since you were looking for a bridal shop on Oahu.)
Tip #2: Keep your posts brief and easy to read. Readers shy away from a wall of text. Use paragraph breaks to help break up your posts.
Tip #3: Be very clear about what you're asking about. If you want to know about a woven palm bag, then state very clearly:
Tip #4: Make your subject more descriptive. You can't go wrong with making it the question you are asking in the post: "Where to find cute woven palm bags?"
Tip #5: Use the bullets/numbering feature to help list things instead of pictures. Pictures take time to load and can be very vague. Instead of a picture of a bag with a bunch of stuff in it, write out "I would like to make OOT bags with:
I know that every internet forum has a different style, and a lot of new members take a while to get into the WB groove. Hope you stick around, there are a lot of ladies who would love to help you out! :-)
@manders83: Welcome to the hive!! I haven't seen any of your posts (I've been on vacation from the bee) but the odds are someone will comment on your post. Sometimes it takes days, but we are generally a very helpful bunch.
And I would agree with @MightySapphire: people don't respond to block text so much because it's painful to read. All the words and paragraphs run together (it's a big mess!).
You sound a little emotional at the moment, but chin up! Stick to the boards and you'll find a wonderful group of women here to support you in your time of need =)
@MightySapphire: Thank you very much for the tips! I didn't even know what anything was posted under either! Everyone is very helpful :)
Just wanted to say that it's hit and miss with responses! Sometimes I get a lot, sometimes not very many at all. It depends on if anyone knows what you're talking about or sometimes even if anyone is awake/on Weddingbee :)
Welcome!
@manders83: Welcome. In addition to what others have said, I have to add on about being conscious about time zones. I know being a West coaster that tends to be around in the evening, sometimes my posts go unnoticed, or only get replies from other west coasters because it leaves the front page before the majority of bees (midwest/east coast) are even up in the morning.
Here's an admission of how lame I am: but sometimes if I have something "important" to ask that I want people to reply to, I'll save it and do a quick post in the morning before I go to work so all the folks that weddingbee at work will jump on it during the day.
That said, you'll likely get to know some of the west coasters better than other bees, and we're a pretty cool bunch too!
@manders83:i dont have any advice about posting but i wanted to tell you that i grew up on kauai (i live in seattle now), but would love to chat if you need to about anything kauai related (the people, the atmosphere, island fever, etc). pm me if you want my email address.
where are you getting married at?
@SapphireSun: I was just going to post that! I noticed the OP replies so late at night then I thought "Well duh, she's in Hawaii, she's 5 hours behind!"
So yeah, like stated above, it helps to post in the morning eastern standard time. Or you can bump your post if it didn't get any hits overnigh. :-)
@kolsen206: That's awesome! You are the first person I have found from here :) I am getting married at the Waimea Plantation Gardens.
I sometimes don't think about the time zone when posting! After everyone started telling me that, I have tried to post when I notice it's a good time. :) I see what you ladies mean.. the boards move quickly when people post/comment.
This site is addicting! :)
@MightySapphire: does "bumping" annoy people? I have seen a couple where people don't really like that. Does it depend on different things? Like is they do it all the time?
I think it's more like when someone bumps a topic within an hour of posting or bumping a bunch of times. I don't see a problem bumping a topic a couple hours later. If you bump a post repeatedly after you get good advice, that seems to rule people up too.
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I have been coming on this site way before I decided to post on it. I'm not really one that blogs or anything, and I really didn't know what this site was about. I would come on to look at DIY things and other ideas. I noticed how helpful everyone seemed to be. Whether it is giving people opinions about their wedding, or helping with personal issues. It is sometimes better asking strangers since you will get a more honest response. Sometimes I feel invisible in my life, not sure why. I'm just one of those people that care to much what other people think.
My FI and I had already talked about moving to Kauai before we were engaged. I didn't want to move as quickly as we did though. We got engaged, then moved to Kauai 2 weeks later. I had no time to even try on one wedding dress. All my family and friends are in Florida. I won't have a bachelorette party or bridal shower. I even have to fly to another island in hopes I find a wedding dress there since there are no stores here. BUT I'm going with my FI which kind of sucks since I don't want him to see the dress until the wedding day. I know it was my decision to move here, I just am really missing the fun part about planning. I'm doing it alone, with little help from friends and family. They will be coming out here for the wedding, but it's still lonely. It has already been a year (aug 11) that we moved here. I still don't really have friends. Just girls my FI works with that I see sometimes. I thought coming on here would help a little.. talking to other brides. I'm not sure how everything works on here yet. I posted a few things, not many people responded. Some posts have no responses. I am starting to feel like maybe I should have just not signed up for this. It's pretty much the same as talking to people here/Florida. I am probably just emotional right now, or maybe I'm posting things in wrong sections. I didn't come on to talk about my personal issues, or anything. I just thought I could get advice/ opinions on wedding stuff. Can someone tell me things about this site that maybe it took you awhile to figure out? How do you have profile picture when you just have the arrow over there avatar or whatever? I see a picture and lots of information, but I don't know how to do it? Can I change my name on here, or will I always be Manders83? Am I posting wrong? Am I just being a big baby? I feel like I just need some kind of friend right now and signing up for this made me feel even more lonely. I read other people's posts and comment on them. Maybe it takes awhile? Maybe I just need to stop being such a vagina.. can I say that on here?