Post # 1
Is this a thing? Beware, this is a post containing whining and boo hoo’ing, but I gotta let it out!!! I’ve been in such a crappy mood since yesterday and cringe at the thought of anything wedding! I think it’s because I feel like I’ve come to a stand still 🙁
Last weekend we had a trial run with a potential caterer and it didn’t go well…food was awful…so they’re off the list and we’re back to square one 🙁
Yesterday I went dress shopping for the first time. I invited my Mom, aunt, best friend (bridesmaid), and cousin (bridesmaid) and my best friend and cousin both backed out last minute…I was crushed. After telling my cousin how I felt she ended up going, but really?! Nothing like making yourself out to seem like a charity case. Dress shopping itself was OK…I enjoyed getting a feel for what I liked and didn’t like, but didn’t end up with “that feeling” (which I know not everyone gets) but I didn’t even feel like I found something that I loved.
Our wedding isn’t until June and I have gotten some of the big things checked off including venue, photographer, and DJ, but feel like there’s so much more to be done! Caterer, event rentals, dress, porta potty rental (don’t even get me started), alcohol, and all of the little details and DIY decor!
I’m off from one of my jobs this week so I hope to get some planning done in the afternoons and have also set up 2 more dress appointments. I’m hoping once I start checking some more stuff off the list I’ll regain that giddy, fun, excited feeling once again.
Thanks for listening ladies!
Post # 2
Weddings aren’t all they’re cracked up to be. I’m feeling quite low and have 2 weeks to go before my wedding!
Post # 3
I was totally in your shoes last week! It’s amazing how one little off putting thing can make you hate everything right?? But then you only need one good thing again and it puts it all back in perspective a little.
Glad you’ve got some time coming up to crank through that to do list – I’m sure with a few items ticked off you’ll be feeling great again!
Post # 4
LeeBee88: I found wedding planning to be the most stressful experience of my life (even more stressful than purchasing a house)…… There are so many parts to a wedding and it is very easily to get overwhelmed. While the planning was difficult, I found it hard to navigate the never ending nonsense brought about by people. From bridesmaid drama, to plus one drama, to MIA vendors wedding planning certainly took its toll. What I ended up doing mid way through planning was to stop talking about my wedding and to stop asking/looking for help. Once I realized that it was easier to do things on my own (granted wayyyyy more time consuming and difficult) I cut out a lot of useless stress and chatter. While it is nice to have bridesmaids and family involved, I found that doing things alone or with the FI just got things accomplished.
Post # 5
LeeBee88: This may sound harsh, but if you want to enjoy your wedding planning, the only person you can count on is yourself. Once you set expectations, such as people showing up at certain events (i.e. dress shopping), you allow yourself the opportunity for disappointment. No one will care about your wedding as much as you do. Best of luck.
Post # 6
Thanks so much ladies! It makes me feel better knowing this is a normal feeling. I have been so excited up until now, and I feel like there’s a dark cloud over me…I want the sunshine again 🙂 I’m hopeful now it will come!
housebee: You’re 100% right! I need to keep reminding myself that the true meaning of this wedding is underneath the details, dress shopping, etc, it’s about me and my FI making a commitment, and that’s all that will matter the day after and many years ahead 🙂
Post # 7
YESSS! It totally is a thing.
I felt so upset about my wedding for weeks. I wouldn’t watch any wedding shows and every time I thought about it I just got sad. 🙁
If it makes you feel better you have more done than me and my wedding is in January! haha.
My advice is pretty much the same as the other bees. It’s all about expectations! I found when I got engaged I had this vision that for the next 10 months people woulding be gushing and buying me little ‘bride’ things, helping me out and my family would be supportive. Then I realized other people have lives. lol. I know this is a super exciting time for you, and it should be! But don’t expect it to be a special time for others… because it’s not.
Once my mom stopped being supportive I lost my shit. Super depressed, but then I thought of why I’m getting married in the first place. I’m starting my own little family with my love, and he’s the only support I need throughout this process. As long as we’re happy and married at the end of the day- Success! Once you focus on that more the little details start to fizzle away.
Btw… my mom is coming around, and I’ve found the wedding experience a lot more exciting and pleasurable once I let go of expectations.
The sun will come again my friend!
Post # 8
This makes me so happy that we’re elopoing!!
Post # 9
winterwoodlandbride15: Thanks! Glad to hear your Mom is coming around! You’re totally right though…we have these high expectations of what we think it will be like and then it’s…not! haha. But you totally have the right attitude!
Ellicott: LOL. Last night in bed this thought ran through my head…more than once! I’m planning on sending out our STD sometime in September, so I have a little bit of time to decide 😉