Post # 1
Is there even such a thing as wedding blues? I’m planning my wedding and I feel all alone. All my family is far away, so they’re not here to help. My FH has pretty much done nothing, but I’m over that since almost all the plans are taken care of. Now, my dress and my veil are in and there’s no one to go with me to try them on. I went once to the store where I bought my dress, and where my dress is being stored, and I just felt weird. I had to ask the attendant to take pictures and she didn’t seem to want to or care. I just got my veil in and want to go see what it looks like with my dress, but have decided not to. I just feel bummed out about the thing. I have a friend in town who will be in my wedding, but I feel like I’m bothering her when I talk to her about the wedding and she never asks. I texted her the second my dress came in, but I never heard from her. I was hoping that she would want to go with me to try it on. Is anyone else in the same position?
Post # 3
I am SOO there with you!
I have been engaged for 10 months. No one threw us an engagement party. No one asks how the wedding planning is coming along. No one really cares which is really depressing.
My MOH lives in another state and got engaged a few months ago so she is in her planning whirlwind, my 1 BM is also in another state and the 1 BM I have here, is pregnant. ha. My mom isnt the girly, planning, get all emotional type. SO i am totally alone in ths entire process. My brothers are in the military and both overseas, and my dad is MIA. haha.
MY fiance wants to elope, but I cant bring myself to do it.
Post # 4
I feel the same way sometimes too! I live on the opposite coast as my family and BMs (and also the wedding will be on the other coast). My FI has been good at helping with things (also it helps that we are not detail oriented, and so we are not spending too much time planning anyway!), but I didn’t want him to come dress shopping for obvious reasons. So I went alone for the last try-on and to buy it, and man was I so depressed! It didn’t help that I was really excited to go dress shopping, so it couldn’t live up to the expectations anyway. I had the same problem with the lady not really helpful or nice (you’d think they’d be nicer to solo brides knowing they may be a little blue!) After I had forked over the dough (and more than I expected…bummer!) I was actually sitting in the waiting room, waiting for my FI to pick me up, silently sobbing! Not what I had in mind, for sure!
So I’m sorry to hear that you guys are going through the same thing, even if misery loves company a little bit 🙂 Haha so if I can be sappy I really love reading the WB boards, though I don’t post often, because I get my fill of wedding/girl talk!
Post # 5
I’m in the exact same boat! My MOH and 1 BM are on the east coast and my family is in the midwest while I’m on the west coast. I went dress shopping by myself and for one dress had to try to take pictures of myself in it to send to my MOH. Some salespeople have been nice, but even then I wonder if they’re just trying to make the sale. I’ve also been doing all the planning myself and even though my FI offers to help, he’s just not the planning type. I’ve definitely had days where I’ve felt very alone in the process and was even going to post today about how all the planning right now is just making me grumpy. It’s good to know that other people feel the same way! I do just try to remind myself when I’m especially grumpy that it’s all for something really great and that it will all lead up to a wonderful day.
Post # 6
I can’t believe I’m not the only one! I actually spent all of Saturday crying over the fact that I feel so alone! My parents and I aren’t very close, my mother lives in another state and my father overseas. I don’t even know if they’ll be at my wedding! I have three sisters, but only one has really been there for me, she actually came with me for my first dress trial, but none of the pictures came out! But at the end of the day I come home and read all the WB boards and I don’t feel so alone! Thanks!
Post # 7
O my goodness ladies, i’m so sorry to hear that people aren’t involved in your life that you can cherish this time with. I wonder if you guys posted on local boards to meet other brides in your areas if that would help you make more friends and who knows maybe run into one of them? I’m so sorry but feel free to post pictures and we will all help you and tell you how wonderful you look in your dresses.
Post # 8
Hi girls. Thanks for sharing your experiences. While I feel so sad for you all, it’s nice to know I’m not the only one in this already lonely boat! At least we can all say we’re independent women, right? 😉