(Closed) Wedding breakdown….

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Is it ok to keep/sell the engagment ring?
    Never : (5 votes)
    8 %
    Only when he is the one at fault : (11 votes)
    19 %
    Sometimes : (5 votes)
    8 %
    Depends on how long you were together for : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Depends on the circumstances : (28 votes)
    47 %
    It's always ok. It's yours now girl!! : (9 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @NevynT: First off I am very sorry to hear you are no longer getting married. 

    For selling the dress, try some of the “pre-owned” wedding sites like oncewed.com or preownedweddingdresses.com. 

    As for the ring, I’m not sure the best way to sell it. You will get nowhere near what you paid for it (even if it appraised for well over the purchase price) because commercial jewelers will not buy back at what you paid. The best bets would be to go back to the store where it was purchased and see what they will offer and then go around to independent jewelers/estate jewelers and see if they are interested.


    Again I’m really sorry to hear you are in this situation.

    Post # 4
    2894 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’m so sorry! I hope you start to feel better soon.


    Recycledbride.com is another place you can sell dresses. idonowidont.com is a place you can securely sell your ring. You post the ring, when someone purchases it, it goes to the companies gemologists and they verify the customer will be receiving what they paid for. The customer sends their payment to the same central hub and its kept on hold during that time. Once everything checks out, the company transfers the money to you and sends the product to the customer. So, you may want to check it out. You won’t get what was paid for it, but you could probably get more than just selling it to a jeweler.

    Good luck!

    Post # 5
    125 posts
    Blushing bee

    No advice, but take care…

    Post # 6
    4714 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1998

    I am so sorry to hear your story 🙁 Please make sure that you get it in writting that your Ex does not want the ring back. If you did not get married then he still owns that ring and can come after you at a later date to get it back.

    Post # 7
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @GelaMac:  I agree. An engagement ring is considered a conditional gift until the condition (marriage) is met so he would be the owner by law. Just want to keep you safe!

    I’m sorry you have to go through this!!! ((hugs))

    Post # 8
    23 posts
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’m so sorry for what you’re going thru … be sure to check the laws in your state before selling the ring.  In many states in my area the ring is a part of an AGREEMENT.  If that agreement falls thru the ring is property of the man, UNLESS he proposed on your brithday, valentines day or christmas, then its a grey area and you can fight that it was given as a gift…. very tricky stuff but I’d hate to see you sell it then him come after you for it or the cost of it.  :/

    Post # 9
    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    For the ring I’d start with the jeweler that it was purchased at, they sometimes have return policies for these types of situation…

    Post # 10
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    try the jeweler or diamondbistro.com they sell pre owned rings on there too

    so sorry for your situation, and as cheesy as it sounds things happen for a reason. keep your head up!

    Post # 11
    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Legally the ring belongs to the man until you get married and is considered by law to be a contractual gift. But if he doesn’t want it back- by all means sell it or have it made into other jewelry.

    I know that pawn shops as well as “I do, now I don’t” website are good ways to sell jewelry.

    Post # 12
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I agree with other posters. I’d also consider talking to a jewelery store that offers consignment. You might be able to make a little more money than going the pawn shop route.

    Post # 13
    2869 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    As far as the ring, it depends on your state laws.  In CA, it belongs to the “receiver” if the “giver” backs out, but goes back to the “giver” if the “receiver” backs out, so the legal posession depends on the circumstances of the breakup (if mutual i think it defaults to going back to the giver).  I’d check your state laws – not saying you can’t keep or sell it regardless since he agreed, but if that contradicts your state law you should get it in writing.  See if you can find a consignment store… and idonowidont.com

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