(Closed) Wedding Budget? Do you people ask you how much you are spending?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I share this type of information with my close friends… just because… well, we share everything.  I think it depends on the type of relationship you have with your friends.

Casual acquantainces and relatives that I am not close with though— yeah, that would be weird.

Post # 4
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1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Uh… no one asked me. I eloped, so maybe that’s why no one wanted to know, but I agree it’s a little bit gauche to ask.

Post # 5
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105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have asked very close married friends/engaged friends for advice or perspective on wedding spending, like “What do you think is a reasonable price for X?” rather than what they spent on it. I agree it’s no one’s business and you were perfectly in the right to say you didn’t really want to share that information.

Post # 6
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3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

omg people are asking me right and left what I’m spending! It’s driving me crazy! Are they then going to judge how nice my wedding was based on how much I spent?

Post # 8
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171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree that no one should have to share financial details with others. I do find that the people who ask me how much I am paying are my single friends who just want an idea of how much they can expect to pay in the future, so I will usually give them ballpark figures. My married friends know better than to ask.

Post # 9
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3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

What if I only spend $70 a person? Will they go into my wedding thinking it’s cheap (well for my area) or something like that? I just don’t want to tell anyone anything! I want everyone to go in without expectations.

Post # 10
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671 posts
Busy bee

Thank god no one has asked. I think that was very tacky what your friends did.. and fyi.. per plate is only a portion of a budget. Was she planning on helping out? OR maybe she was thinking she needed to buy a gift to cover her plate? Either way, money is pretty taboo especially if you are asking someone their finances in a group setting! I have asked friends what they paid for this and that (more like what XXX costs).. (very very close friends..like my MOH) but thats only because I was clueless and planning my own wedding. I do think there is no reason to be offended..but I would understand if she was and the convo died because now everything was really akward… but asking someone about their money situation is a akward question

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