Wedding $budget$ make you sick?

posted 1 year ago in Money
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Busy bee

yes! it’s crazy how much more expensive things are when you put the word “wedding” in front of them. i’m diy-ing most of my wedding and cutting corners everywhere i can, but still it makes me sick to think of blowing my savings on one day..

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Buzzing bee

Yes I finally got so fed up looking for venues etc fiance told me to give up we’re going to Disney which was my first choice. My head has been exploding for months over costs and logistics. Atleast for the money spent there I get no stress and a week’s vacation.

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Helper bee

UGH YES!  My FI and I foolishly thought we could have our dream classy wedding for 10k. Yeaaaa not happening lol.  The great thing is that we are getting that dream wedding for about 20k and because we are using an all-inclusive venue/caterer we saved about 65%…That’s what gets me to sleep at night lol.  We also aren’t going into debt for it, we are only using money we actually have.  So I guess the whole thing isn’t too bad.

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Sugar bee

No I think I would stop spending before it got to that

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Buzzing bee

when i thnk about it, i’m kind of disgusted.  i haven’t actually made a budget (my dad was awesome & is paying for part of it and told me how much he could give), my FI’s parents gave us a little and we’re paying for the rest.  the amount my dad is giving us is already a lot and it’s already spent on the venue/catering/alcohol.  for the rest of stuff i’ve been generally just researching how much things cost and deciding if i think they’re worth it, tbh.  for some things i’ts been really hard for me to come up with a number b/c i have no idea how much it’s normal for things to cost.

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Busy Beekeeper

Yes.  I am very frugal, so the thought of spending about 13k on a freaking party is somewhat abhorent.  But, we really really want to have our close friends and family all there, and the guest list is around 150.  We’re doing a low-key, DIY style wedding (wildflowers, music by friends, BBQ rehearsal dinner), but still.  Luckily my parents are paying for most of it and they can afford it.  

My advice is to just suck it up and embrace it, or elope / go for an intimate wedding.  No point in self-doubting once you’re committed (unless it’s truly a financial hardship, of course!).

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Sugar Beekeeper

Yah it adds up fast. And it is really annoying how anything ‘wedding’ seems to have at least a 50% markup versus a regular party. 

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Sugar Beekeeper

We didn’t have a clue how expensive a wedding really was. We went into our planning with a $25K budget in mind and by the time it was all over our budget had literally tripled. While we could afford it (so we didn’t feel “sick” necessarily) we certainly had not intended to spend that much.

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Buzzing bee

Not really, it’s a lot of money for one day, but each bride made that choice to have a nice wedding including friends and family as oppose to eloping, destination, or very small wedding with 40 guest or less.

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Bumble Beekeeper

@infinity092813:  Yup, and that’s why we’ve decided to elope.

I think the averasge $27K for a wedding is insane. It’s a less than one day event!

If you have the money, then fine… but I can think of at least 50 things I’d sooner spend the money on.

It’s about priorities I think. For me I’d rather have the houses, cars, jewels, holidays, clothes, dinners out etc. before I’d spend even close to that on a party.

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Buzzing bee

Yep, it still blows my mind that we were even able to pull it off. Now to live normal lives again and pay off student loans :P

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Busy Beekeeper

 $27k is the average wedding price?  Wow I had no idea it was that high.  We used most of our money for our downpayment.  The wedding is sort of secondary with a smaller budget ($12k for everything: tax, tip, rings, gifts, local honeymoon, etc) and we’re not going into debt for it, so I guess it’s not too big of a deal for us.  If we still had car payments or student loans, I think it’d be more of an issue for me.

 

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Bumble bee

At the beginning i really got shocked at how much this was gonna cost. I got to a point where I said that I don’t care when we get married now, I just can’t justify spending so much money!

But since I have shopped around. Finding a venue was the hardest… each place was charging an arm and a leg and some venues made us feel like there will be tons of hidden costs popping up and i honestly was scared. Our 10 grand budget for venue doubled!

I have gone a different way since. I always thought i needed a one stop shop to help with the stress of planning a wedding but those really come with a price tag. I was able to find a wonderful venue to rent and a great caterer and managed to really save this way with various things. Looks like the maximum we will end up spending will be 15 grand but i honestly don’t even think we will get up that high :)

I guess it just depends on what you want, where can you compromise and how much can you do yourself.

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Sugar bee

Wow, the wedding budget has me worried.  I don’t know how my budget got to be so much, I feel like it kinda ballooned out of control and I am so organized and frugal.  Oh well, it’s what I wanted.  No regrets really as it’s still a budget wedding and in the end I’ll get to be married to fi and celebrate that  day with family and friends 

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