Post # 1
Hi Laides- I just wanted to get some feedback on my situtation. We’re planning on cutting a cake (just one layer will be real) and serving that to the bridal party and head table while the bridal party hands out boxed cupcakes (which will also double as the favor). Will the guests expect cake as well? The reason why we’ve decided to go with this route is 1. The reception place wanted to charge us a "cake cutting fee" for cupcakes! 2. We wanted an edible favor 3. Financially it saves us $$$. Thoughts? Thanks so much! (This is my first post!)
Post # 3
I forgot to mention… dessert is included in our menu.
Post # 4
Hey Sprinkles! That’s a very smart idea. If your dessert is included in your menu I wouldn’t expect to get a piece of that cake. I don’t know about everybody else but I’m all about edible favors.
Post # 5
I don’t really care for the idea. Not because I don’t like cupcakes or giving them out as favors but I don’t like that only the bridal party gets to be special and get cake, but none of the other guests get any. My mom told me about a wedding that she went to once where only the bridal party was served champagne for the toast and everyone thought it was tacky. One possible solution is to have all the layers of the cake are fake. It would just be for show, then have everyone eat cupcakes. I have heard of others doing this.
Post # 6
I’m doing the same thing for my wedding. We will cut our cake but everyone including the bridal party will get cupcakes that will be served in chinese take out boxes that will have a label tag that says "love is sweet". I think this is convenient and a clever idea because not everyone will want to eat dessert after a full dinner so they can at least take it home with them.
Post # 7
Hi MsJadey…where did you buy customizable chinese take out boxes for your cupcakes?
Post # 8
I agree 100% with Niki. I actually went to a wedding where the bridal party got a diff (much better) yellow cake than everyone else who got dry chocolate sheet cake. It was so obvious and I thought pretty tacky. it is one of the things I reemeber about the wedding. I would serve everyone cupcakes- I would stay away from playing favorites in public.
Post # 9
what if you cut a top tier and didn’t serve it, but then have a tiered cupcake tree w/ cupcakes wrapped in cellophane and tagged? then you could have the cupcakes on display, and people could choose to eat it there or take it home.
Post # 10
I’m not sure why everybody gets up in arms about the cake-cutting fee. If your venue has to serve the cake (or cupcakes), provide plates and forks, and wash them afterwards, it’s not unreasonable to pay for that.
If you’re not going to offer cake to your guests, I would seriously consider not having a cake. It sounds like your cake is basically a photo-op, and nothing more. You could simply serve cupcakes to everyone, and do your cake photo-op with a tiered tray of cupcakes, and with you and the groom feeding each other pieces of a cupcake, and eliminate the weirdness of the mystery cake that doesn’t get cut or served, and also avoid treating your guests like second-class citizens. If you think about it, serving cake to the wedding party and providing boxed cupcakes to the guests is a little like serving a plated dinner to the wedding party and having the guests walk through a buffet line. It looks much better to treat everybody the same.
Post # 11
I understand you want to avoid the cake-cutting fee but you want to make sure you do this while making your guests feel included.
I think you should avoid the cake if you’re not going to serve it to everyone. Or have a cupcake stand that has a small cake that sits on top which you don’t cut, but can save for for later – maybe the following day if you have a gift opening.
I would suggest having the cupcakes displayed and then have an assortment of napkins and small boxes so people can choose to either take a cupcake with them or eat one right away.
I think cutting the cake and then not letting everyone have some many not be your best option.
Post # 12
I really like the idea of a cupcake tree; you could provide boxes or take out pails for those who do not want to take them home. Here are some pics of seriously cute trees:
If you go with this option, you can have the best of both worlds:)
Post # 13
Either give everyone cake, or give everyone cupcakes.
Sounds like the cake itself is for the photo-op which truly isn’t necessary and will seem even less so since you aren’t serving the cake to your guests.
I don’t agree with the comment that not everyone will want to eat cake after a full dinner. Aside from the obvious joy and love, people look forward to experiencing two things at weddings: seeing the bride and eating the cake. If only a few people get to do it, it will seem tacky.
Post # 14
I think boxed cupcakes as a favor is a really really cute idea! I may steal it 😉 If you want to have a tier of cake to cut into then go for it! I really do not think that most people will be offended if they do not get a piece. usually by the end of a wedding I am so full that I can not even eat the cake, so the option of taking home a boxed cupcake is a really smart idea!
Post # 15
Thanks for all the suggestions…
We’ve decided to just cut a small cake (won’t be serving to anyone else) and hand out cupcakes.