Wedding Cake? So confused!!!!!!!!

posted 3 years ago in Food
  • poll: What should I do about my wedding cake?
    Have my Mom make my Cake for free or a lot cheaper than buying one? : (4 votes)
    9 %
    Buy one from a local grocery store? : (18 votes)
    41 %
    Forego the Cake and do a dessert spread? : (19 votes)
    43 %
    Other Option (Post Below) : (3 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    If you don’t like cake that much try walmart (48 for 2 tier or 130 for 3 tier) or a local grocery store

    Post # 4
    7191 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I would just buy/make a very small cake for you and FI to cut, and buy plain sheet cakes to be served to the guests.

    Post # 5
    22 posts
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Its too bad you have concerns about your mom, because I would’ve totally recommended having someone you know bake it! It really doesn’t matter if they are super experienced or not – as long as they put in the dedication to learn how to do it, and take their time and practice once or twice. Two years ago I decided I wanted to learn how to make cakes (both with and without fondant), and after doing some online reading, just jumped into it! I made a few (I think 3) birthday cakes, and was asked to make a wedding cake for my cousin. She had ~200 guests, so I had to make a 6 tiered cake AND a sheet cake. At this point, I think I had made 3 cakes and one set of cupcakes in my life. They turned out great – and it was all because I did my research and took my time. I obviously knew her wedding day was incredibly important, so I made sure to work my ass off to make them look professional.

    Around my venue, cupcakes are a lot cheaper than cakes, so I would recommend thinking about doing that. I know they are a lot easier to make, and if you (or someone you know) spent an afternoon learning how to pipe, you could also make them yourself to cut costs.

    I also really like the idea of a dessert spread. So you don’t like cake – its YOUR wedding! Serve what you want! You could have different pies, or small dessert spread with mousse, macaroons, cookies, etc. If you just can’t let go of the picture of cutting the cake, have a small 1-2 tiered cake for the cutting, but put more of your money into what you do like! It will mean more to you and your guests if you are doing something that is right for you. I’m not sure how reliable your friends/familes are, but a friend of mine had a “dessert potluck” at her wedding. All of her close family members brought their signature dessert dish – it was a HUGE success, was really unique, and everyone who contributed felt like they were a part of the wedding.

    FYI, just another thought – something we’ve considered doing for both style and (possible) cost cutting is doing a few basic cakes in different flavors, along with a small bride/groom cake in the flavor we would want. That way, you can offer your guests who do love cake choices, while keeping your favorite flavor for yourself.

    Post # 6
    2134 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    If you don’t like cake totally do a dessert spread!  It’s your wedding- make it what YOU want! I am the opposite- I LOVE cake!  So as a guest I would notice if the cake was from a grocery store.  For my wedding, it was really important to us that the guests would enjoy the cake as much as we did, and we spent a lot of time finding our bakery. So if cake isn’t your thing, find something that is!  If you’re doing a tea party wedding a dessert spread sounds amazing and perfect and delicious!  That way, you can get what you want and your guests will enjoy it too.  Besides, when it comes to dessert, variety is never a bad thing! : )

    Post # 8
    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @raziel1687:  You could do pies, or squares, or a random assortment of desserts.

    Or, you could skip the cake altogether.  Are you having dessert served with your meal?  Assuming you’re having a meal that is.  We found we were so full after all the food and desserts no one really even cared about the cake.  Plus, we had squares at the late lunch.


    Post # 9
    1560 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Why not get a little cake for you and Fi to cut from Publix if you wan tto keep with that tradition, and do your desert spread that goes with your theme? I think that sounds super cute! Don’t let your mom make the cake, that is a recipe (no pun intended) for disaster!


    Post # 10
    1102 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @raziel1687:  I think do the dessert spread and maybe just have one cake for the cutting not even really eating just like mushing a lil in each others face to be funny 

    Post # 11
    126 posts
    Blushing bee

    Try getting a pretty (but small) cake that you can cut for photos, etc.  I am getting a small 2 tier so we can cut the bottom layer on wedding night and save the top for 1 year anniv.  We are doing sheet cakes for the rest of our guests.

    Go to publix, or anywhere else you want, and get sheet cakes- keep them in the back for caterers to cut- shet cakes are easier to cut than round/decorative ones, they can be cut ahead of time rather than racing the big cake into the back, and are SO MUCH CHEAPER!

    As nice as it is for your mom to make a cake, that’s a lot of pressure, and she will have tons of other stuff to worry about- baking doesn’t need to be one of them!

    I also went to a wedding last fall where the bride and groom got a bunch of pies from a local farm stand and jsut had those- premade, ready to go, and since they were local, pretty cheap!

    Post # 12
    1071 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

    I think cupcakes would be a great idea. I feel like people are more apt to eating those. Also, I am a fan of a desert spread.

    I would vote to not allow your mom to bake you the cake (unless it is just a small one for you and FI.

    Post # 13
    1287 posts
    Bumble bee

    Cupcakes are great.  FI and I are going with 2 basic flavors: Chocolate and Vanilla with a whipped icing and we also are going with 2 gourmet flavors, our favorite: Coffee flavored cake with chocolate icing, caramel drizzle and a chocolate covered espresso bean on top and a white almond with blueberry filling and a blueberry whipped icing.

    We have a variety. 120 cupcakes and it’s going to cost us just under $130. 

    We found a baker that does this business out of her home instead of going through a professional wedding cake baker.  We couldn’t get a professional baker to return our calls or emails. As a wedding professional in the business myself, we didn’t appreciate this lack of response from a professional.  This woman is only charging us $1 for regular flavored and $1.25 for gourmet flavored.  

    Plus, we are getting a small 6 inch coffee flavored cake (like the cupcakes) just for us to cut for the cake cutting. 

    Also, in my area, a cookie table is very popular. Family members are going to make a variety of cookies for guests.

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