Post # 1
So its commonly held that if a wedding gets canceled, all engagement and wedding gifts get returned to the people who gave them. But what if the bride and groom decided that while the wedding ceremony was off, the reception was not?
With all of the non-refundable deposits, if a wedding gets canceled last minute (for whatever reason), it might just be worth it to have the party regardless, even if its not a celebration of a wedding. On one hand, since no wedding occured, gifts that were for a wedding (or engagement) should still be returned. But I’m wondering what the etiquette is if you’re still hosting your family and friends for a lovely dinner and night of entertainment and dancing.
Post # 3
If you’re asking about gifts I would probably say still return the gifts if they were given to you for the wedding. I would also probably just call it a night of dinner and dancing instead of reception at all (I don’t know if you were wondering about that too, I just thought I’d add it ).
Post # 4
I would definitely give gifts back in that situation. The gifts are not compensation for the party, they are to congratulate you for getting married.
Post # 5
I would give the gifts back. You are not having a wedding and that is what people were buying them for.
Post # 6
Give the gifts back. People generally don’t spend $100+ plus on gifts for just a party.
Post # 7
Give gifts back, definitely.
Post # 8
I would give the gifts back.
Post # 9
I’d return the gifts but maybe do something where people can donate to a charity or something. So at least SOMEONE is benefiting from the party. Also even with a lot of things booked I’d imagin you could cancel some flowers & any hair and makeup or special transportation.
Post # 10
I’m confused, so you two aren’t getting married but you are still having a reception?
Post # 11
Give the gifts back. People give you the gifts not because they got to come to the wedding/reception and dance and eat, they brought the gifts to help you guys start your life TOGETHER, which they are now not….so return them or decline them respectfully.
Post # 12
it’s your decision whether or not you still want to have the reception- but those gifts were a wedding present, and it is no longer a wedding if no one is getting married.
Post # 13
The gifts go back! Gifts aren’t a ticket price people pay to attend a wedding, they’re gifts given to celebrate the marriage.
Post # 14
Everyone has said this already, but…give the gifts back! For sure.
Post # 15
I agree. Give the gifts back. They’re meant to be for the couple, together, to help start their marraige.