(Closed) Wedding ceremony questions

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 4
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1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

you can have a lot of kinds of ceremonies outside, just not a catholic one. (a recurring roadblock in wedding planning with my FI)

living together isnt as big of a deal as it used to be for the church. they dont love it, and dont encourage it but they get that financially it makes sense…

if you really care about being married in the catholic church, you could get a convalidation after, although i am confused by your gender. if you are a woman, as most bees are, the catholic church is not very welcoming of same-sex marriage… (ETA: which i think is lame! and is one of the many reasons i am not a practicing catholic anymore)

Post # 5
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

Yes, agreed with PP, it sounds like you will want to explore options for a non-Catholic wedding. This will put you “out of good standing” in the sense that you wouldn’t be able to take Communion, although you are the only one who can decide whether/how much that matters to you.

Post # 7
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548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Dyeam:  Neither FI nor I are “religious.”  I was raised Catholic, but I haven’t been to church since my Confirmation.  I’m having my ceremony at the Country Club where my Reception will be, but in a separate space on the premises. 

You can walk down the aisle pretty much anywhere they lay an aisle runner.  Some people like to get married on beaches, in the woods, in a museum… whatever you like.  You just have to get creative and make sure you have all your permits, etc.

Hope I answered your questions.

Post # 8
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224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am actually getting married outside in a garden. When I met with my coordinators one of the first things they asked was did I plan to have an aisle (runner). I did not and they said, “Great”. They were ecstastic. Apparantly it is quite difficult to keep a runner down if the surface isn’t completely flat. It will constanly move/drag as people are walking and heaven forbid the wind picks up. As an alternative I will like our walkway on both sides to create an “aisle”. 

If you decide you really want an aisle without the concern you can look into a local wedding chapel. Most wedding chapel are not “religous”. So you can still get your aisle without worrying about battling with the officiant over spiritual beliefs. I am getting married by choice outside, but I am catching it regarding an officiant because my FI and I were raised in different beliefs. 

Post # 9
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676 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

FI and I are getting married in a renovated old prison…so pretty much the opposite of a church and I still get to walk down the aisle. I mean honestly if you put out an aisle runner and chairs on either side and an altar at the end then you can make an aisle wherever you want. Also I was raised catholic and stopped practicing a long time ago and our ceremony is not religious in any way.

Post # 10
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1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I got married outside in a garden and had a non-religious ceremony but it was still every bit as meaningful and wedding-y and walking down the aisle-y 🙂

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