Post # 1
My mom won’t be coming to my wedding, and so neither is anyone else in the family…. so I have to have a courthouse ceremony style wedding, with no family around. So there goes all my DIY projects, the restaurant reception, my dress, etc…
Reason? She disaproves of my fiance.
Question – Should I kep my happy face picture or change it to a sad face…
Post # 3
@happyface: So sorry to hear about your mom causing problems for you. 🙁 That must hurt a lot. I can understand where you’re coming from though.
Post # 4
@happyface: I am so sorry!
First, you can still have a dress.
Second, you could put that money towards a beautiful elopement. Our elopement to Paris (the wedding part) is $1,800 so I’m sure you could find something beautiful for low cost.
I really wish everyone could have the perfect bridal experience with awesome families and no stress.
Post # 5
You love him? He loves you? You’re getting married? Then be happy!
As long as her reasons for dissaproving aren’t good enough reasons that maybe you should be paying attention to, then get married, be happy, and I hope she comes around.
How does his side feel about it? Are they still coming? Do you have family members who DO approve but just don’t want to offend your mom and may be rebellious and come anyways? What about friends? I would gather all those that both love and support the two of you and still have your party!
Post # 6
Why do you have to do away with your wedding? Is it because your mom was gonna pay for it? I don’t understand. If none of my relatives were coming to my wedding, I’d still be having one with just FI’s family there.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
@Pinksapphire: <— This!!
OP, my Fiance doesn’t have a family (literally only has his parents and a sister), but we are still having the big ol’ wedding! Just because he doesn’t have any family coming doesn’t mean we shouldn’t celebrate our union! We have a ton of friends who can’t wait to see us get married and celebrate as well as all of my family members. I say, go on with the show! Those who are most important to you will be there.
Post # 8
Okay, let’s see my situation. My family isn’t coming, because of my mom, that made up 3/4 of the people…. he only has one sister that is coming, the rest he doesn’t want. He has maybe 4 friends that he wants to invite and I only have one friend, and she was in the same religion as me but isn’t anymore.. I don’t have a “wedding”! I only have 5-6 people coming… That’s not enough to plan a real wedding. Before I had about 30 people and that was reasonable enough to plan a decent wedding party.
Years ago I was in a strict religion (which we both are going back to after marriage) and all my friends are of that religion so for the past 4 years, I have no friends, until I go back to the religion. (And I am not saying which religion it is because I still believe in it and going back, but I have to be married first!)
Post # 9
Perhaps your mom will change her opinion? I am seeing from your profile that you will get married in 2017. People change overtime and perhaps time will let her ease up with the marriage idea?
Post # 10
@dstep: I am seeing from your profile that you will get married in 2017
No I am not marrying in 2017, I don’t know what date I will be choosing so I chose the year 2017 because it is the last year weddingbee allows! HeeHee
Things are getting better, so hopefully after the court / trial issue is over with, I will have the wedding I planned, just later than the original date.
Post # 11
So your family doesn’t approve of him because he is not in your religion? Or because you are marrying outside of the religion? Sorry, just trying to understand…
Post # 12
My family doesn’t approve of him because they think the worse of him. He lived in my house (co-owned with my mom) and is a little bit of a hoarder. He had a lot of animals which sort of “ruined” the house and floors…
He got into a row with my adult son (my son actually pushed him and I ddin’t see it) and this got the police called because my Fiance was so mad he said he was going to burn the house down… (just him getting so upset)
Then the animal contol guys came over (the police called them up) and euthanized one of the animals, and that got him more upset because he is an animal lover. (The animal didn’t have to be euthatnized, it was just easier for them to deal with it) We are now going to court for animal cruelty.
So now my family doesn’t approve becauswe of the problems he is “causing”…