Post # 1
I’m going to list somethings things have been going on with my wedding lately and I do apologize if its unclear or long but I have to vent somehow because the stress is becoming to much for me….
1. I have had to change my date already because of my brothers Graduation. This kinda threw me off because I wanted a Spring wedding( 5-12-12) but now only summer dates are open.
2. Bridesmaid issues – I had to let go of a bridesmaid already and I then was left with 4 , recently my fiance’s sister let me know that my new date (6-24-12) is the same day as her fiance’s family reunion and they have not decided which they will attend. On top of it all my maid of honor/best friend let me know today that she is in another wedding this day and ” she was asked by this friend 1st ” …Now that would leave me with 2 and these friends are great, but financially they struggle and have yet to pay for their dresses ( Should I change my date again?)
3.People and their opinions – Me and my fiance have been together for two years. He is 36 and I’m 27 . Family and friends have been saying he is too old for me . They say i shouldn’t marry him because he smokes ( Mary Jane that is ) . They say I haven’t spent enough time alone in my life …and the list goes on…
I love my fiance and he loves me ! He is a sweet, hard working ,and God fearing … I want to be his wife and start my family with him . I can admit I do put too much value on what other have to say,I have always had this problem but sometimes I think because they are family and close friends maybe they have a point that I just don’t see … and all of the wedding issues are not helping these road blocks are making me feel like its some type of omen … any advice or encouraging words will be helpful sorry for the long post …
Post # 3
@Melp2017: I had to replace members in my bridal party as well. Could you do a spring wedding on Sunday or a Friday perhaps? Thet tend to be cheaper on those days. Everyone goes through wild times with weddings love. Maybe check into a venue tosee if they have a Friday or Sunday available?
Post # 4
wait wait wait.. The sister of the groom doesn’t know if she will be there because of her FI family reunion?? Seriously? WTH! How is that even an option??
I’m sorry you are having so much drama, I keep repeating my mom’s mantra in my head “it will all work out….it will all work out…it will all work out”
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Um, your wedding is way more important than the family reunion-they can go to separate functions (I know couples that have “split” weddings, when they’ve had two on the same day.) Can you imagine people’s reaction at the reunion- “You’re HERE instead of at your brother’s wedding??”
Post # 6
Pick a date and book a venue and refuse to discuss it further. Tell them that the venue said you can’t change the date again, even if it’s a lie. I consulted a person or two who would have overseas travel arragements to make but otherwise, we just picked a date that seemed convenient for everyone and booked it. If my own parents have a conflict, well I will be sad that they are not there if they can’t make it but I will still have a good time and I will get married on that date. There is not a date on the calendar that will work for everyone. Pick one that works for you and go with it. I would suggest that if you’re going to change it again, you may want to book a little further out. June is a big wedding month and if things are not booked yesterday, you’re not going to be able to make this happen. Dithering about the date for much longer is going to really limit and eliminate your options.