Post # 1
Hi, my friend is planning a wedding. She is tryin to have a big wedding on a small budget, so the money is being spread very thin. She is thinking of having a cocktail hour with out any cocktails (the wedding is going to be a dry wedding because she does not want to pay for alcohol) or hors d’oeuvres. Is this a reasonable thing to do? Is it considered rude not to provide guests with food/drink during this time? Also, since this is not a typical cocktail hour, she is wondering what she should have guests do at this time. My ideas were things like a photo booth etc., but that doesn’t seem like it would be in the budget.
Post # 3
@acmckay589: Honestly, if I had the choice to go to a foodless, drinkless cocktail hour or just an hour gap, I’d rather have an hour gap.
Post # 4
@acmckay589: I would not recommend that she invite her guests to a cocktail hour without serving any food or beverages.
If she can’t afford to host a cocktail hour, I suggest she not have one.
I would rather go somehere and purchase my own beverages to kill time between the ceremony and dinner, than stand around with nothing.
Post # 5
I think they could probably skip on [alcoholic] drinks, and offer water, or sparkling ciders or even soda, but there should be something to munch on.
Post # 6
@acmckay589: If there is a gap in time between the ceremony and the reception and the budget doesn’t allow for refreshments after the ceremony, she could just give some suggestions of place where people can go nearby, before the reception begins. No need to hold them in a room with nothing to eat or drink! Guests will likely coordinate with one another and entertain themselves before the reception begins.
Post # 7
Heh? How is it a cocktail hour without at least some soda’s and a snack? What are people going to do stand around and stare at each other?
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
If she’s really trying to save money, maybe she should do a morning/brunch wedding. Your food costs are much lower, and you can have bloody mary/mimosas. Yum!
Post # 9
@acmckay589: I’ve been to a wedding with a no-food, no-drink cocktail hour.
It was HORRIBLE–People started leaving before they’d even cut the cake!
Post # 10
Thanks, guys. You have all told me what I was expecting to hear. Now I kind of need to figure out how to tell her these things!… no fun! I have been trying to help her, but its hard to balance that with not upsetting her!
Post # 11
@rebwana: My parents did not give me a sound wedding budget, but I chose to do the a.m. wedding regardless because my mom and I did all the planning within 3 months (my husband was going to have to move a state away until I finish school and we wanted to be married before that), and you have many more choices if you are williing to go with a morning wedding. You are right, my wedding turned out to be much less expensive than my parents were expecting, in basically all aspects! However, I don’t think my friend would be interested in that, great advice though! 🙁
Post # 12
I would be annoyed if I went to a cocktail hour that had no cocktails or food for that matter. I would wonder why the hell I’m here. I could have gone somewhere for a snack. To me it would sour my experience a little.
Post # 13
Is the cocktail hour the entire reception or just a space filler between ceremony and reception? Are the reception and ceremony in the same location? If they’re in the same location she can’t just have an hour gap with nothing.
Post # 14
@acmckay589: Something I saw recently was a caricature artist! SO cool. I think she charged $125 for the first hour, and $100 per hour after that…
Or you could do a DIY photobooth and have someone take pictures of each family with a digital camera, DIY some props..
For food can they DIY fruit and veggie trays? Or meat and cheese?
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
@remijp: I would MUCH rather go somewhere and get a bite (and a drink, if I’m honest) than wait around somewhere. In fact, knowing there would be a gap, that’s exactly what I would try and arrange.
Post # 16
Or even only serve champagne, wine and get a self-serve keg of beer? There are a lot of options! Obviously I don’t know what her budget is though.