it took me a while to figure out what I really wanted, and what we could realistically manage. When I started planning initially, I was totally overwhelmed! Wedding World is fullllll of inspiration – beautiful things enough to (literally) make up thousands of amazing weddings – the weddings it comes from! The hard part comes when your wedding can only be one wedding, and you do eventually have to narrow it down.
What worked well for me was that I started a bunch of Favorites folders (dresses, bridesmaid dresses, flowers, invitations, etc.) and anything I liked, I saved. Then after like 2 months and hundreds of saved pages, I went through them and got rid of anything I didn’t absolutely LOVE. And you know what I found? SIMILARITY! It totally took me by surprise, because I thought it would all be so different, and instead, I found that half the flowers I saved had the same colors, half the invitations were of a similar style, all the dresses were vneck, etc. And so I grabbed those commonalities and ran with them.
It’s hard to let go of some of the elements that I loved that just don’t mesh as well (or some of the DIYs that look so great and so affordable, but I have to be honest with myself – I won’t realistically do, or couldn’t realistically transport to the city where we’re getting married), but as I get more into planning, I find that I’m focusing more on the stuff that I AM doing, and less on the stuff that had to be left behind.
Yes, I will always sigh a little wistfully when I see chiavari chairs, and yes, there’s that $650 veil that I love and can’t convince myself to delete the bookmark to, but I know that I don’t NEED those things, because I have my photobooth, my amazing photographer, my beautiful blue stained glass chapel, J’s pin striped suit, my home grown eco friendly bouquets, my lace covered candles (a la Miss Paisley), etc etc etc.
Let yourself soak in all the inspiration for a little while, and then start to wean it down to what matters the most, and you’ll find it pulls itself together. 🙂