Post # 1
My step sister is getting married 2 months before us and I just got their invitation. I can’t tell you how amazing their invitation is. Normally I think invitations are just things people throw away but this invitation will be talked about for a long time. Its just fantastic. I can’t get over it.
My FMIL is very good friends with my step-mom and will also get the invitation. I’m embarassed to admit but my heat sank a bit when I saw the beautiful invitations as I knew it would lead to my FMIL calling to tell me about how awesome their invitation is and leaving me feeling like she thinks ours are crap. Yes, ours is just some generic crap from some website but we didn’t really care or have the budget to do anything more.
Since they are about 2 months ahead of our, I keep feeling like our weedings are being compared and that ours keeps coming out the loser. Our weddings are in two different weight classes. They are in heavy weights and we are the feathweights division. Besides the obvious, we are too different couples.
Post # 3
I don’t care how epic the invitation is, it’s just an invitation and it will be forgotten. I don’t remember any wedding invitation I’ve received, it just gets thrown away. Don’t stress about it too much. Your wedding will be unique to you and it will be fabulous!
Post # 4
iheartnerds is right! Most people don’t remember invitations. Sadly, it’s true. I’d like to think that people will remember ours, but they won’t, and it’s ok.
Your wedding is going to be great! Try not to worry about them. Just enjoy your wedding and remember you’re spending the rest of your life with the one you love. 🙂
Post # 5
I’m sure the invitations are just a part of the issue… but really, nobody cares about inviations. Unless it’s made of pure gold and lined with dollar bills, it will be in the trash just as fast as any other invitation.
Trust me, I slaved over our DIY invites, and the most I got was my mom said a couple people thought they were nice.
Post # 6
Honestly, I look at invitations, and, unless they COMPLETELY suck, I think, “EEEEE! How exciting, they’re getting married!!!”
I then sometimes proceed to analayze how much money and/or time they wasted making the things, especially if they’re obviously complex or ornate. 🙂
I’m sure your invitation is fine, AND it is paper. You throw it away. Why spend $12+ per invitation?
Post # 7
Really try not to worry. I have found that the average person’s reaction to wedding details is who cares? What people will remember is how much fun they had at your wedding, not who spent more money.
Post # 8
I agree with all of the above posts! And really, my experience has been that the ‘normal’ (not high budget) weddings are way more fun than the high budget ones! The food never seems to be as good at the expensive weddings and people just seem to not relax and have as good of a time at super expensive weddings as they do at more ‘normal’ weddings. Don’t compare to your stepsister – just focus on your wedding and how much fun it’s going to be! Also, use her wedding to figure out what works well and what doesn’t and adjust your wedding accordingly if you can – not in a competitive manner but in a ‘what can I do to make sure my guests have an awesome time at my wedding?’
And invitations? If your FMIL says anything to her, ask her if she would like to purchase high end invites for you as they are not currently within your budget and you are unwilling to sacrifice quality on important items (i.e. food, music, photog) for a piece of paper that most people aren’t going to pay any attention to. End of story.
Post # 9
Its not really just the invitations. Its the snide comments people keep making about the weddings. Its annoying because we both love our weddings and we are having a lot of fun planning together even though they are so different. We laugh about how different they are.
Its just a bummer to have to listen to 10 minutes about how awesome this or that is about her wedding and then a “oh its nice” about ours. Then I feel I have to defend my choices and say well we weren’t really into that detail and tried to keep the cost as low as possible. I just feel like I pick something and I like it and then when I have to try to defend it, it ruins the fun of it.
I know its not really a big deal but I guess I’m just sick of hearing about it. Oh weddings, you bring out the wierd in people!
Post # 10
@Snowy414: I understand. Just remember, no matter how “awesome” their wedding is or how “nice” your wedding is, their wedding wouldn’t be right for you and yours wouldn’t fit them.
I know it sucks when you feel like you are suddenly in a competition you didn’t want to be in, but in this case, the only way they “win” is if you give them the satiisfaction of letting them think YOU aren’t happy with your own wedding. If you build it they will come… if you are happy, other people will be too!
Post # 12
I agree with kryje003 love your wedding for you and FI, who cares what other people say. What matters is that you are marrying the man you love. Her wedding may not fit you and your wedding may not fit her. That is what makes everyone unique, how boring would it be if all weddings were exactly the same.
Post # 13
Understand how you feel. I call this year ‘the wedding year’, so many people (friends, family) getting married is so hard to focus on MY wedding. But just take a step back and forget all bout the other weddings. Your day will be just as special as her day. My two best friends got married within 2 months of each other and not for one second I thought about comparing weddings, I enjoyed both and they were beautiful in their own way.