wedding costs

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

The honeymoon is generally paid for by the couple unless it is gifted (Wholley or in part) by family or guests.

 

The bridal shower is usually paid for, historically, by the female members of the family or bridal party (It isn’t uncommon for mothers of the bride to go in with maids of honor/bridesmaids)

ETA: Like the person below me said, if this is your wedding and you are throwing yourself these things, you don’t ask anyone to pay because it’s your shower & honeymoon.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You pay for your honeymoon. If someone wishes to host and throw you a bridal shower, than they would pay for it.

If it’s your wedding, you dont ask anyone else to pay for their share as the only people who have a share in paying for the wedding is yourself and your FI.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Unless someone is generous enough to gift you a honeymoon, the couple pays. A shower is paid for by whomever hosts it.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@sarahroby:  In the same way I would never ask my mother to pay for my wedding, or my fiances mother to pay for our rehearsal dinner, I wouldn’t ask my bridal party to pay for a shower or bachelorette party, and I certainly wouldn’t ask anyone to pay for our honeymoon. (It’s bad enough I’m asking people to travel for my wedding – though I’ve told everyone not to feel obligated to come)

I’d like a bridal shower, and a bachelorette party, but I’m not about to ask anyone to throw me one. I may suggest my friends and I all go out to celebrate if no one throws me a bach party…but I won’t demand they come or pay for anything (except their own drinks if they want)

I personally think it would be rude. Tradition be damned.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The honeymoon is paid by you or your husband.  As for showers — if someone is generous enough to offer to host one, they would pay.  It would be incredibly rude of you to suggest someone host a shower for you and how to divide up the costs. 

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Don’t ask. If your parents and future in laws want to help they will offer. Bridal shower I think it’s supposed to be your bridal party but most people I know work with the mother of the bride and MOH to decide this stuff. The MOH should definitely ask your bridal party if and what they would be willing to contribute prior to any shower planning.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@sarahroby:  I dont think ANYONE has a “fair share” in the wedding costs except the bride and groom.

You shouldnt ask anyone else to pay for any share of any of these things. Typically the honeymoon is paid for by the bride and groom, unless it is gifted via an unsolicited OFFER, not to be asked for. If no one offers on their own, you pay for it yourself. Same with the wedding itself.

Things like bachelorette parties and showers are typically paid for by female family members and/or bridesmaids, but again, these things must be offered, and should not be asked for by the bride. If no one offers, than you don’t have them.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You should NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER ask for anyone to pay for anything for your wedding. It isn’t “their share.” It’s your responsiblity. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Your wedding, your honeymoon, your shower, your hens/bucks night. YOU PAY. Unless someone offers or asks to host then they may pay but you should offer to help finiacially (if not pay the whole way) and you DONT ask EVER, it is YOUR responsibility. 

 

 

 

GAH!!!

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@sarahroby:  You pay for everything. How old are you???

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@HannahGrace:  Im not sure why age was brought up??? Regardless to wether she is 16 or 22 or 28 or 35 its no one elses responsibility to pay for any part of her wedding…

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Pokemon:  I brought it up because expecting other people to pay for one’s life experiences seems like something you should have moved beyond by the time you are contemplating marriage.

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