Wedding Costs after he broke up with me

posted 1 week ago in Engagement
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  • Post # 2
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    kdavenport109 :  Sorry you are going through this. I suggest you and your mother see a lawyer. They are the only ones who can tell you what you are entitled to and what steps to take.

    Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    kdavenport109 :  Sorry Bee! Agree with PP about seeing a lawyer. However, I do believe that as he broke off the engagement, it is a broken contract and you are entitled to keep the ring. I THINK. This could be used towards paying vendors :/.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee

    kdavenport109 :  I am so sorry!! You really need to talk to a lawyer about this. A lot will depend on your state, on who signed the contracts, etc. Make sure that in your state the ring is considered yours as your only option may be to sell it to cover some of the costs. Do NOT give it back to his family until you’ve spoken to a lawyer and know who the rightful owner is. Also, if you have in writing that your ex told you to get an abortion, I would make sure that is saved and backed up somewhere. I would talk to a lawyer about other ways to prove that he did not want the child in case he attempts custody out of spite. I am so so sorry this is happening to you. Hang in there. Everything will work out!

    Post # 5
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    2855 posts
    Sugar bee

    kdavenport109 :  Yes, you will need to see a lawyer to address not just the wedding costs but, more importantly, child support and custody. 

    Post # 6
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    425 posts
    Helper bee

    kdavenport109 :  wow..Um as far as suing? You could try, but unless you have physical proof that they were paying for X amount then no I don’t think anything will come from it. This sounds like a mess. Has he or his family paid a penny towards the wedding? It seems fair he should pay for it or atleast half since things didn’t work out on his behave. BTW timeshares aren’t “free”. His parents still have to pay yearly fees, fees everytime they stay at one and a transfer fee for you and your ex to use it. Last time I knew my SO parents told us it was $250 to transfer 

    Post # 7
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    1077 posts
    Bumble bee

    I saw a lawyer after ending my engagement and it was money well spent!  It’s really the only thing you can do at this point. Hope you feel better soon. 

    Post # 8
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    493 posts
    Helper bee

    kdavenport109 :  I’m confused about who would have been paying if the wedding had gone ahead?

    What age are you? You keep mentioning his parents paying you back but then you say that they weren’t paying anything, just offering you their time share. If they were never paying I don’t see why they would give you money at this stage.

    Your ex sounds like an asshole though. You were trying for a baby and now he’s telling you to get an abortion?

    how long were you together? You sound very young in your post.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2017 - Outside in Paris

    I’m so sorry. Make sure you have all contracts and documentation of the deposits you have lost. And speak with an attorney. He will only end up owing about half I suspect. Also, watch what you say to him in emails and texts. I hope this works out. 

    Post # 11
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    4475 posts
    Honey bee

    kdavenport109 :  See a lawyer.  But be glad you got away from this mess of a man.  I’m sorry this happened.

    Post # 12
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    493 posts
    Helper bee

    kdavenport109 :  It sounds like neither him or his parents ever agreed to pay for the wedding so it sounds like that’s something you and your mum will have to cover. 

    I will say it sounds like you both massively rushed into this, you started seeing each other in August and had a wedding booked in February? You have two kids already, you need to think about them in situations like this. They would have barely known this guy and he would be their step dad, did they move into his apartment in November?

    Post # 13
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    What a horrible situation. The best I can say is at least that asshole and his evil mom are out of your life. As for the wedding expenses, it’s hard to say if/how your mom is going to get her money back. Did she put down $15,000 in deposits/dress etc? Since the wedding is in June, perhaps there’s still time to work with vendors to get it sorted out and recoup what can be recouped?

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