Wedding Crashers: Soulless mooching or harmless whimsy?

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: What are your feelings about wedding crashers?
    They are the WORST - that chicken or fish option was $119! : (33 votes)
    53 %
    Harmless fun - the more the merrier! : (29 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 2
    1768 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I think that as long as there are a ton, and they aren’t causing problems, then eh, it’s a risk and kind of funny. It’s (likely) not like the crashed the party, sat down, and helped themselves to the waiter-served dinner – they probably showed up when the party was going on, and most venues don’t keep someone with a ticker at the door counting how many people came in.<br /><br />I know we had three people show up – one of the three was a friend of DH’s friend who just happened to be at our venue (a microbrewery resturant – our reception was on the private second floor) – DH had met her several times and when he heard she was there said it was fine if she came up, and she brought her friends. It was no big deal to us.

    Post # 3
    2657 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would be miffed if I had spent almost 2 years carefully planning a nice event for guests, only to have random people come in and eat and drink what had been selected and prepared for my guests.  That being said, if it actually happened to me, I know that I would probably be so wrapped up in the day that I’d just politely ask them to leave and not make a big deal out of it.

    Post # 4
    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I voted harmless fun… We had several wedding crashers at our wedding. They came after dinner, drank at the open bar, danced to our awesome DJ, and apparently had quite a nice time! One couple was the parents of one of my old teammates (and thus invited to crash by their daughter), and another couple was a groomsman and his date from the wedding that was being held in the ballroom down the hall. To be honest, I didn’t notice them at all during the wedding… I was having too much fun! We found out a) when my teammate confessed and b) when we got our pictures back and saw the couples. I could not be less upset about this! I love it! To this day I think it’s one of the highest compliments… we clearly had such a great party that these people couldn’t keep away! (And we did have an excellent party.)

    Post # 6
    6446 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It depends… If they take someone else’s seat during dinner and my aunt has to find somewhere else to sit it’s annoying. However, if there are open seats anyways (we had a few no shows) than I don’t really care who eats that chicken because I already paid for it. As far as the bar- we paid a flat rate so the more the merrier! 

    Post # 7
    1599 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Harmelss fun! We had crashers at our wedding. Our DOC did the best she could to 86 them when she saw them, but a few got some drinks in before anyone noticed. Who cares? As long as the venue isnt upset (IE- we paid for XX number of people and ended up being over because of them for a few minutes,) I take it as a serious complement.

    Post # 8
    557 posts
    Busy bee

    Completely harmless! They didn’t take someones sit down dinner…they got some free drinks and ate some cake. My dad and his friends did that once…it was after dinner…head count is over. They had a great time and met some people and they love to talk about it 10 years later.

    Post # 9
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club

    I recently learned that my parents accidentally crashed a wedding when they were dating. My dad got invited to his bosses son’s wedding so the only person they knew at the wedding was the father of the groom. They were not invited to the ceremony and went on to cocktail hour where they found an escort card with what they thought was a slight typo – Like Mr. Helm vs Mr. Helme – so they thought it was their escort card with a mistake. They had a lovely time at cocktail hour and sat at their table only to see during announcements that the father of the groom was not my dad’s boss! 

    turns out, the wedding they were invited to was the following weekend! They high tailed it out of there before anyone else caught on. 

    Post # 11
    1715 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m not a fan of wedding crashing or crashers at all. I don’t think it’s funny or cute or whimsical — it’s just rude. 

    To purposefully go into an event that you weren’t invited to and eat, drink, and have a good time on someone else’s dime is selfish. I also consider it stealing. 

    Post # 12
    4760 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Eh if you have so many people at your wedding that you don’t know who is who anyway then it really won’t even make a dent in your budget if a “stranger” has a drink on you.  Hell step uncle 2x removed from across country is also pretty much a stranger.  So if they are being social and chatting to guests and adding to the fun I don’t see an issue.

    But this is why I’m a fan of smaller weddings where I know everyone reasonably well and not only becasue I could easily see someone that is not part of the wedding, but that I know everyone at my wedding.

    Post # 13
    1377 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I would be peeved if someone did it to ours, but we’ll be on a boat, and they would literally be taking someone else’s seat that was invited. If it was a more traditional reception with tons of room, I don’t think I’d care as long as they weren’t rowdy or drunkards! Lol. 

    Post # 14
    10452 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    We had crashers show up once the dancing began.  I didn’t really care, but I did point them out so they couldn’t help themselves to the bar.  Drinks add up fast!  At that point, I would consider it stealing.

    Post # 15
    844 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Assholes. I swear to god if I see anyone at my wedding who’s not supposed to be there, eating the food we’ve paid for etc, I’m going to send them away myself. When you have to pick and choose friends and family to invite to keep costs down, and possibly not have someone you’d have wanted there, and then some idiot just shows up totally uninvited and helps themselves… it makes my blood boil.

    But maybe it’s different here in the UK? I’ve never heard of it happening, but I’m sure that if it did it would not go down well.

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