Post # 1
We just got engaged on May 21st (yes…the day of the rapture…by FH is so romantic 😉 We’re trying to decide on a wedding date and are running into some problems. We wanted to do the end of April or beginning of May but each weekend seems to have something wrong with it.
April 21st: Day after 4/20…I’m sorry but I don’t want my wedding anywhere near “pot smoking day” for several reasons including the fact that I don’t want the groomsmen incapacitated the entire rehearsal.
April 28th: Nephew’s first birthday. Even though I know he won’t remember it, My SIL will definately feel like I’m stealing her thunder…not good.
May 5th: Cinco de Mayo…too much tequila…enough said
May 12th: Mother’s Day weekend….I don’t want to impose on peoples plans to spend Mother’s Day with their Mother’s if they have to travel to us.
What do you guys think? Am I thinking too much into this? Should I just pick a date and understand that I won’t be able to make everyone happy and there’s always going to be a reason not to have a wedding on a certain day?
Post # 3
I don’t think you’re over thinking it at all… We had a lot to consider for an april wedding, especially since we’re highly involved in our church, as so is most of our friends, and we didn’t want to conflict with rehearsals for the Easter production… yea see we had to think heavily on it too. lol
What about a week earlier in April or a week later in May?
Post # 4
What’s a meaningful date for y’all? Does any date in particular give you that giddy feeling like it’s meant to be *your* date? I would push aside your worries about picking the most convenient date. There are only 365 days in a year. Do your thing! 🙂
Post # 5
congrats on getting enaged!
wow, that is a lot of conflicts… assuming your wedding is on a Saturday, I would say “so what” to having it be on the same WEEKEND as mothers day! that seems safest.
Or, try asking your SIL how she would feel. Maybe if you explain the other conflicts, she would acknowledge that it really wouldn’t be a big deal for her son’s birthday to be the same day.
Post # 6
We had trouble picking a date b/c we needed our venue and rabbi to be open the same day. We wanted April, and ended up pushing it up to the end of Feb.
But I think you could use one of those dates. I really doubt anybody will notice that your wedding is the day after 4/20.
Post # 7
@Ms.Bookworm: Yes you’re thinking too much into it I think. I’d go for the 5th or 12th May if it were me. I’m getting married on Fathers Day.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2011 - Hunter's Ridge, Princeton, IL
Tee-hee about the rapture comment! ; )
Just wanted to say that one of my BMs got married last year over Mother’s Day weekend & nobody cared. I don’t think anybody even really thought about it, especially because they could still keep their Sunday plans with their lovely mommas. And actually a lot of us got to celebrate WITH our moms, so it actually made it more fun!
Post # 9
@Ms.Bookworm: i had my wedding on my cousin birthday, my rehearsal dinner on my SIL’s birthday and the day after my wedding was my brothers birthday – and i was on my honeymoon for my husbands birthday 🙂 so what i did was have everyone sing them all happy birthday at my reception, i bought them all a little gift and birthday cupcakes haha. they loved it and it was the least i could do for “stealing their thunder”
pick whatever day you want – cinco de mayo wouldnt be all bad – it could even be a theme! and i dont think mothers day weekend would be bad either, after all aren’t weddings a great time for love and family?
Post # 10
I agree with artbee, and I would hope your groomsmen have enough respect for you and your fiance and understand the important responsiblities they have.
I also agree with MrsStrz, go with the date that the two of you feel best about! Don’t worry about what day it falls on or what day its close to.
I’m sure what ever day you decide, the day will be just perfect! 🙂
Post # 11
i dont think it matters if it clashes with a birthday or pot smoking day
Post # 12
Pick the day that fits best for you.
If you go with the nephew’s birthday, you could have everyone sing him happy birthday, give him his own cupcake, and a small present.
We went with April 14th because 1)it’s AFTER Easter so more people will be likely to come 2)we were trying to aim for “spring break” for the kids but ended up figuring it was pointless due to not knowing what the winter could/would bring (aka missed schools screwing over spring break) 3)I hate the cold, FI hates the heat. So we went with April 14th.
Funny side note: turns out april 14th is also my uncle’s birthday…and said uncle died when I was three.
Post # 13
Thanks everyone for your input.
After reading all the comments I think we’ll either go for May 5 or 12. I just need to get the FH on board.