- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
So once again we’ve changed our wedding date… I seriously am just considering eloping… (um.. no I want my nice pictures :)…)
But seriously here’s the background:
-FI and I got engaged in Sept. 2012 mainly because he got a very good job offer in another country :(… I couldn’t leave from right away so we decided to get married in December 2012 and I would move… then in November I was told I wouldn’t receive the company bonus (given in March-April of every year) if I left early. We agreed to move the wedding to April 2013. Then I got promoted in January and my salary went up 55%!! (I was like… SERIOUSLY??) and I had a chat with him… so see if he was OK in us saving up a little before getting married and with his salary there and mine here, we could afford a nice place etc… Oh, I forgot to mention that I would be moving to where HE is right now (so moving to another country). He was not very happy about this obviously, but I have always been independent I DO NOT want to move to another country and depend on someone else :/… so that’s why I would love to stay a couple more months here save more so that once I feel ready to move, I will have money saved for whatever first job I can find.
He thinks I do not have trust in him in that he can provide and we will have a happy life together, etc… and I keep telling him it’s more the fact that this is my career and I don’t mind leaving everything to go with him, but to allow me the time I need to go and not feel resentful of moving when I was at a good roll here…
I am thinking of staying until late september or early October (even if I lose next year’s bonus…), But FI wants me to move APRIL no matter what… :/
ANYWAYS, I would love to hear opinions of any bees out there going or that went through something like this…
-Should I stop worrying about the future and just get married and life happily ever after?
-Should I think about the future and have a safety cushion for our happily ever after.