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    Miss Hunky    July 10, 2010  

    We've been engaged since November of 2008, and have been planning an August 7, 2010 wedding since then. My brother is taking the role as father of the Bride (like he has since he was little) and is also in the Army. The invitations have NOT been sent out yet, however the STDs were sent out in December.

    Sunday we found out that he cannot make it to the wedding. From the very beginning Fi and I agreed that no matter what my brother HAS to be there. So we let everyone know that the wedding was on hold, mainly by telling the grandmas/moms/siblings and let it spread like wildfire. 

    Today we decided on July 10 as the wedding date, officially. Its the best date that works for my brother, FI/i, and our parents. 

    About 80% of the guests are coming from OOT, of those 50% are from 4 hours away, the rest from one hour away. Yes, we aware that this really hurts travel, however I KNOW the people that NEED to be there will be there.

    Anyway, how do we let everyone know that the wedding is moved? Just word by mouth? A note? Send the invitations out for the new date along with a note explaining why we've moved the date? 200 people are invited. 

     

    TIA!

     
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    bridegrl    October 9, 2010   Monterey County, California

    I think sending the invites with a special insert explaining the date change should work...good luck!

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    If you aren't ready to send the invitations yet, with the new date, you could get some save-the-date reminder/date change post cards to send out right away, and then when you are ready to send the invitations, you can send them out with the correct date.

     
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    dns567    September 5, 2010   Oregon

    i would suggest calling each person, but with 200 invitees that would be a difficult task!  new save-the-dates or even an email i think.

     
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    oracle    October 23, 2010   Los Angeles

    All of the above?  What is quickly doable for you?  You could also do a combination of word of mouth, email and mailing with a note explaining.  I wouldn't send the invites with the correct date without some sort of explanation - that may be a bit too confusing.

     
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    texasmeredith      

    You need to tell everyone ASAP.  Some of our out of town guests may have already purchased plane tickets.  And those that haven't will need to purchase their tickets ASAP.

    I'd send an email save the date update today and then send the invitations out ASAP (my wedding is July 10 and I mailed my invitations last week.

     
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    camrie    September 5, 2010   Louisville

    I'd say get invites out ASAP and just include a note in it. Plus I'd try to tell as many people as possible - I'd imagine telling a few people in each of your families would spread the word, plus you could always let your friends know via a mass email.

     
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    DemoDreamer    May 2011   Ohio

    I would send the invites ASAP with an insert explaining the change and that you hope they can still make it!!

     
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    shaydenise    October 30, 2010  

    You do exactly the way you told them it was postponed.  Word of mouth.  Quickly followed by an invitation asap.

    Good luck!

     
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    noodlefish    November 27, 2010  

    I would either send out invitations in the next few days, along with a note explaining why the date changed... or design/order postcards today through vistaprint (they have deals for joining up for their email list that give you 100 post cards for free and you pay shipping) that way you can send those out in a couple days if your invitations are not anywhere near ready.

     

    Holy run-on sentence, Batman!

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    I'd combine a couple ideas.  I'd tell your immediate family and closest friends to spread the word.  And I'd send out the invitations with a lil note explaining what happened. 

     
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    Nickynick    August 7, 2011   Ohio

     I agree a note with the invitations will be best and tell your close friends and family.

     

     
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    Miss Cheeky    May 8, 2010   South Jersey

    I would get the invitations out now, as soon as you can get them out. You are about two months away so they should be going out now anyway. I would include a little note explaining why the date was changed so that people aren't confused. Also, I might call the OOT people who are family and verbally give them a heads up as well.

     

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