Post # 1
So picking a wedding date is way harder then it should be. I want October 18th 2014 (so does my fiance). My Mom wants spring (so my brother can come- he plays hockey and can’t miss games now that he is on a higher up team). My Grandparents want spring-summer because they don’t like the cold and are only in state (WI) for the summer before going back down south.
My Mom also says people might not come because its not summer or a holiday (a lot of my family are out of state).
Another factor, the venue we love is cheaper if we do a Friday or November-May wedding (750$ less).
Ugh! This is way too much stress.I don’t know what to do…
Post # 3
@senglish0410: Its your wedding. Have it on the day you want it. Everyone who is important to you will show up.
Honestly – it doesnt matter what date you choose – people will complain about it no matter what.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@senglish0410: No matter what date you pick, someone will say they can’t make it because they have other plans or responsibilities. That said, is it important to you for your brother to attend your wedding? If so, then you should try to work with his schedule as best as you can. But if you are choosing October 18th for some special significance to you and your FI, then I say book it. The people that love and care about you will do their best to attend your wedding no matter what day it’s on. (BTW, my stepsister can’t attend my wedding because it’s during her nurse training and she can’t take time off to attend my wedding in another state. It’s disappointing but I know she would be there if she could.)
As far as it not being summer or a holiday, I wouldn’t worry about it since most weddings do not occur on a holiday or during the summer and guests seem to have no problem attending. I know in colder areas of the country spring/summer weddings are more popular due to the weather being warmer but that shouldn’t be your only consideration in choosing a date. So long as you aren’t getting married when there might be a blizzard, you should be fine. And your grandparents should be able to buck up and deal with a few cold days to attend their granddaughter’s wedding.
Post # 5
@senglish0410: Why do you want it on that date? It is a cool number. Personally, I wouldn’t want to get married on a date my brother couldn’t come, and I think the money you’d save by having it in April (or May?) would be great. It’s toobad yyou’re grandparents and some family would likely only come in summer, but you have to decide what’s most important to you. Only elope if you’re comfortable with possibly breaking the hearts a little bit of some loved ones.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I agree just pick the day you want, others may have a preference but once you set the date they will have to just deal with it. While October is cool/cold here, it’s not like you’re having it in December-February! So you shouldn’t be dealing with sub-zero temps, snow, and ice. People will complain about any date. Summer will illicit some saying it’s “too hot”, spring “too cold, or too rainy”, winter “way too cold”…etc.
Post # 7
The date doesn’t have a super important meaning to fiance and I but neither of us likes to be hot (and to be honest i sweat really bad when i’m hot and i will die if i am sweating bad the whole day). we are having an indoor wedding and reception but for photographs outside and walking around i really would rather be cool than hot (and i know with a big dress and stress i might be hot already).
If I were to have a spring wedding I would want it like 6 months from now (not 2015, that is too long for an engagement to me). i am just worrying about planning a wedding on a budget in 6 months.
Post # 8
October 18 – the day YOU and your FIANCE want. After all, you are the ones who are getting married 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2014 - Sea Ranch Lodge
@senglish0410: Sounds like you have made your choice 🙂
Do the original date! Fall weddings are so beautiful, and it’s something that both you and FI want. Unless people are teachers, traveling during the summer is really no different than traveling in the fall. Even if they have kids, they can still sneak in a weekend getaway or long weekend.
Plus, apparently it’s the “sweetest day” in 2014 😉 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sweetest_Day
Post # 10
@QueenieB: yes when i saw it was sweetest day i just giggled, i think its corny and i kind of like it! 🙂
thanks for the advice everyone! i’m hoping my brother can come and if not i know that he would be there if he could!