Wedding Date Dilemma

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: When should I have our wedding?
    October 18th 2014 (our original date) : (22 votes)
    76 %
    Spring : (4 votes)
    14 %
    Summer : (0 votes)
    Elope! (Too much stress!) : (3 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    1526 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @senglish0410:  Its your wedding. Have it on the day you want it.  Everyone who is important to you will show up. 

    Honestly – it doesnt matter what date you choose – people will complain about it no matter what.

    Post # 4
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @senglish0410:  No matter what date you pick, someone will say they can’t make it because they have other plans or responsibilities.  That said, is it important to you for your brother to attend your wedding?  If so, then you should try to work with his schedule as best as you can.  But if you are choosing October 18th for some special significance to you and your FI, then I say book it.  The people that love and care about you will do their best to attend your wedding no matter what day it’s on.  (BTW, my stepsister can’t attend my wedding because it’s during her nurse training and she can’t take time off to attend my wedding in another state.  It’s disappointing but I know she would be there if she could.)

    As far as it not being summer or a holiday, I wouldn’t worry about it since most weddings do not occur on a holiday or during the summer and guests seem to have no problem attending.  I know in colder areas of the country spring/summer weddings are more popular due to the weather being warmer but that shouldn’t be your only consideration in choosing a date.  So long as you aren’t getting married when there might be a blizzard, you should be fine.  And your grandparents should be able to buck up and deal with a few cold days to attend their granddaughter’s wedding.

    Post # 5
    1400 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @senglish0410:  Why do you want it on that date? It is a cool number. Personally, I wouldn’t want to get married on a date my brother couldn’t come, and I think the money you’d save by having it in April (or May?) would be great. It’s toobad yyou’re grandparents and some family would likely only come in summer, but you have to decide what’s most important to you. Only elope if you’re comfortable with possibly breaking the hearts a little bit of some loved ones.

    Post # 6
    2675 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    I agree just pick the day you want, others may have a preference but once you set the date they will have to just deal with it. While October is cool/cold here, it’s not like you’re having it in December-February! So you shouldn’t be dealing with sub-zero temps, snow, and ice. People will complain about any date. Summer will illicit some saying it’s “too hot”, spring “too cold, or too rainy”, winter “way too cold”…etc.


    Post # 8
    1302 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    October 18 – the day YOU and your FIANCE want. After all, you are the ones who are getting married 🙂

    Post # 9
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - Sea Ranch Lodge

    @senglish0410:  Sounds like you have made your choice 🙂

    Do the original date! Fall weddings are so beautiful, and it’s something that both you and FI want. Unless people are teachers, traveling during the summer is really no different than traveling in the fall. Even if they have kids, they can still sneak in a weekend getaway or long weekend. 

    Plus, apparently it’s the “sweetest day” in 2014 😉

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