Wedding Date Drama – Need to Vent

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3248 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Stick with your date. You can’t please everyone and not everyone will be able to come. I say stick to your guns!

Post # 4
200 posts
Helper bee

@Orangefreshy:  Are you super attached to your current date aside from the deposit? Will your venue let you change to another date if there is one open? I had to change my wedding date from September to November for sort of similar circumstances, at the end of the day I am happy that all of our guests will get to go to both instead of picking one or the other. Regardless, good luck! I know that is a sticky situation to be in.

Post # 5
6450 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

You are not being selfish. However, if you are only worried about the deposit I agree with a PP that you could ask the venue if you can switch dates without losing your deposit. I personally would have loved to get married on my parent’s anniversary and TBH I don’t think most people will care if it’s on father’s day weekend.


Post # 6
414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Orangefreshy: Stick to your guns, sister! Unfortunately, you already acquiesced to your future in-laws and set a date that suits them, so I suppose your family feels like they can pull the same sort of rank in this situation.

At this point, if your parents want you to change the date, they should pay the new deposit. And if that happens, make sure you pick a date that suits you, not everyone else. Then put your foot down. If people really want to come to your wedding, they’ll make sacrifices to be there. Something’s gotta give, here. Unfortunately, you are going to make someone unhappy in this situation. And it shouldn’t be you!

Post # 7
1112 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wouldn’t cave! I’m shocked your parents asked you to change the date for a daughter of a family friend when you had yours first. That’s just crazy. You can tell them that the internet thinks they need to get their priorities straight.

Post # 8
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Orangefreshy:  Uh I’m sorry but I disagree with you. You are NOT being selfish. You way more than accomodating everyone when really you didn’t have to. I’d keep your date unless you are willing to move it if your venue lets you. I understand you don’t want to be hot and sweaty, but honestly you won’t even be thinking about that on your wedding day unless you decide to have an outdoor wedding, even for just the few hours of pics.

Post # 9
2878 posts
Sugar bee

My mother would tell me : everything happens for a reason. You never wanted a June wedding in the first place … maybe it’s just one of these coincidences that make you finally have what you wanted to in the first place. Unless you really, really want to keep your date.

Post # 11
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Orangefreshy:  Keep your date. You asked the whole world for their input, you picked a date and the other bride and groom messed up. Not your fault keep planning your wedding.

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