Post # 1
My best man from my wedding is planning to get married the day before my 1st year anniversary.
is it not courteous to call me and ask if i am ok with it being so close to my anniversary date?
or am i being too overly sensitive?
Post # 3
The date has sentimental value to you, but you do not own the date. I may be the minority here, but I don’t think anyone should move their wedding date just because it’s too similar to too close to someone else’s.
Edit: I don’t remember dates. My very best friend in the entire world… I couldn’t tell you her birthday or her anniversary. It’s probably your friend doesn’t know or remember.
Post # 4
@MrConsiderate: We all only get one day to ourselves to celebrate our love and marriage with those we love. Afterwards, we honor our commitment to our spouse and cherish each moment. Unfortunately, people are going to plan their lives regardless of the dates and what significance they may mean. None of us can really expect anyone to check in with us first to get an approval. You should support your friend in his upcoming nuptials as he did for you. I bet you have some awesome advice and tidbits to share with him. =)
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
You are definitely being overly sensitive. He could have his wedding on the exact same date and it shouldn’t matter.
Post # 6
I’m with previous posters on this one. You can’t control what other people do, especially an entire year after getting married. He didn’t even choose the SAME date as you, so I don’t see why it matters.
Post # 7
@MrConsiderate: You are being too sensitive. He can have it on your anniversary if he wants. The day before your anniversary – absolutely no problem.
Post # 8
I agree with PPs. There are a lot of practical reasons that a close friend or family member shouldn’t schedule a wedding near yours. None of those reasons apply to your anniversary though. Your anniversary is a special day for you and your spouse, but you shouldn’t expect it to be special for other people.
Post # 9
Wait a minute…. so in your book, you’re not supposed to pick a date that someone else has used? Seriously? I am getting married on my FI’s nephew’s birthday, which happens to be a day or 2 before his father’s birthday, which also happens to be a day after my friend’s birthday and is on someone in my family’s birthday. So what???
Do you know we didn’t realize ANY of that and didn’t care when we selected a date? We picked a date WE wanted (which was just a random day). No, they shouldn’t ask anyone for input on THEIR wedding date. The day doesn’t belong to you. It existed far before you did.
Post # 10
@Hyperventilate: I agree.
Nobody can own a date, simply because it’s special to them. It may not be special to the other person. When you and your Destination Wedding got married, did you call every single person on your guest list to make sure that date was okay? I’m guessing probably not.
I am also terrible with dates, so it may very well be that he didn’t even know when your anniversary was…I don’t think it was inconsiderate of them at all…you also have a right to decide whether or not you want to attend the wedding…
Post # 11
@MrConsiderate: come gimme a hug, honeypie. You’re absolutely doing too much.
Post # 12
I could understand if it was your wedding date not your 1st year anniversary date. Honestly I don’t get why you’d care. What does it have to do with you? and you wanted him to call you and ask if you’re ok with it? What if your sister scheduled her cesarean the day before your anniversary, should she call you first to ask if it’s ok if your niece/nephew is born so close to your day?
Post # 13
@MissThespian: I didn’t think of that. Did they consider anyone elses feelings when they chose their wedding date? Is it close to Aunt Sallys birthday? or the anniversary of her 1st husbands death? She might be upset that each year we celebrate our marriage she’s reminded of her dearly departed.
Post # 14
@MrConsiderate: as PP all stated, no, they do not have to check with you about their date. but, at the same time, they shouldn’t be surprised if you choose to celebrate your first anniversary instead of attending their wedding…
Post # 16
Yeahhh I agree with PPs. I thought you were going to say that your best friend was getting married the day before you were getting married. But what you’re talking about? I’m sure he doesn’t even know your anniversary!