- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Argg! I thought we had it all figured out! I need to bounce this off of you guys as you’re not emotionally tied to this wedding in any way!
My FI and I sat down and figured out a loose budget (since we’re paying for most of this shindig on our own). We had thought about a Friday night wedding in March 2014. The reason behind that wasn’t something we were emotionally attached to. There is a big St Patrick’s Day parade in our area & our out of town friends always say they want to come (and never do!). We thought we would do a wedding the night before & then rent a “drunk bus” the next day to hit the parade/bar hop. We just thought it would be a fun weekend for our friends, especially since my FI and I see this wedding as more of a “party” (we already live together & know nothing other than legally being married is going to change).
We toured some venues last weekend and fell in love with one! She’s already booked for half of 2014 — including all Saturdays most of the summer. No biggie, we wanted something prior to the first week of May anyway (there is another wedding this weekend).
This venue is a barn and BEAUTIFUL! The inside is stunning, but there are two decks to use outside, in addition to the inside area, for the reception. The grounds surrounding the barn are gorgeous as well – gardens, ponds.waterfall.. basically the perfect backdrop for an outdoor ceremony. We live in Pennslyvania, so a mid-March wedding would most likely mean NOT having an outside ceremony here, as well as not using the decks. Unless it was warm. Which is not something to count on, realistically. Heck, I’ve even seen snow that weekend in the past.
So this leaves two options: 4/19/14 (which is the day before Easter) and 5/25 (which is the Sunday of Memorial Day weekend).
4/19 concerns me because even then the weather is not guaranteed, but the date falls before when we originally wanted to be married by. I don’t think it being the day before Easter would be a huge problem, because most of our guests are local, but the ones traveling are college/army/other friends from out of town — none of which are overly religious and don’t spend Easter with their families anyway.
5/25 seems like the better option. It’s a long weekend, and having it on a holiday weekend doesn’t really concern me. We don’t live in a touristy area, so hotel rates for the out-of-towners wouldn’t be heinous. No one on either sides of the families really go away that weekend, they mainly do picnics (and usually that Monday). I feel like out out of town guests are the same. Exceptions of like only one I can think of, no one has an annual getaway that weekend. If we picked this weekend, we would a rehearsal brunch on Saturday (our rehearsal would have to be at 11 AM at the venue), followed by golf for the boys & spa day for the girls. Monday we would do a farewell/thank you BBQ lunch/picnic, possibly. I’m not worried about finding vendors, it’s a very popular wedding weekend around here, so I know they would be available Sunday. If they cost extra, they cost extra. C’est la vie.
The only downfall is that it’s later than we wanted to get married. I’m okay with having an extra 2 months to save money (hello, upgrades to the reception or honeymoon!), but we really wanted to be married prior of May 2014 (this is us being selfish).
I really need to let this lady know today as she’s showing the venue again starting tomorrow if we want this day as I fear it will book up (the rest of that weekend is booked already). This is our venue — we both had that moment once we saw it. We love the menu, we love that we can bring in our own booze, we love the set up & the lady in charge is so laid back (in a good way).
If you’ve read this far – -thanks! Sorry that was so long and drawn out!