Post # 1
Hey everyone! I’m not sure if you remember my last post about stealing my friend’s thunder (http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/stealing-friends-thunder).
Well it turns out that she is upset even though he just proposed the other day. It’s been a good 3 months that he waited so that she would have her time.
However, now that we are planning our wedding day, we really want to have it next fall (it would be an outside wedding, so weather is key with us).
She has been fighting with me all day the other day and saying how I need to wait until 2014 or 2015 since 2013 is apparently her year.
She is getting married in August, and is saying that I cannot get married in September or October.
What do you all think? Is a wedding date that is around 1.5 months after hers to close? Keep in mind that only around 10 of the same people will attending both of our weddings, and everyone lives in the exact same town so it’s not like we will be putting anyone out.
All of my friends are saying to ignore her because she’s being crazy, but I just want to make sure.
I thought it would be fun to plan together, but she keeps telling me that she will not help me at all if I have a wedding close to hers.
Post # 3
Not at all. Your friend is overreacting in my opinion. She can have her day but she can’t claim a year or a season!
Post # 4
She’s being crazy. Get married when you want to. It’s not like you’re getting married on the same date in the same year and fighting over guests. You’re not even having a DW.
Post # 5
She’ll get over it. Choose the date you want! I would say as long as it isn’t within like 2 weeks of hers it will be completely fine!
Post # 6
I told her that it would be at least 6 weeks apart. We’re thinking October or November for sure. Her wedding is the very first week of August.
Post # 7
@Laceymae: do what you gotta do! it’s not like your wedding is on the SAME day. sheesh. it makes no sense that she’d expect you to wait a YEAR!
Post # 8
I think it’s fine. We’re getting married Sept 28th, 2013 and my fiance’s best friend is getting married Nov 2nd. Originally they were going to get married Oct. 14th, which was a bit too close for us because we live in NY and they live in FL but we decided to just delay our honeymoon so we can enjoy they’re wedding and make a vacation! IF she’s a true friend she will understand and you can work together to make it work!
Post # 9
@Laceymae: She can’t claim an entire year. That’s just insane. I’m in a wedding next year where the bride’s MOH is getting married the week before! The week! And they’re both ok with it. More than ok, actually!
She needs to calm down. And someone needs to remind her of the best advice I’ve seen on here: “no one cares about your wedding as mich as you do.” Sheeesh.
Post # 10
she needs to get over it and stop being a drama queen. like PP said, she has a day, not a year. you are not obligated to plan your life around hers. this is about you and your FI. be firm in your decision and let her do as she pleases.
Post # 11
It’s not too close. She will have plenty of time to honeymoon before your wedding and 6 weeks should be enough time for your 10 mutual guests.
Post # 12
@Laceymae: Also, I read your other post about getting engaged later than your friend on purpose. It seems like you’re a good friend but this is insane.
Down the line, is she going to say you can’t get pregnant during the same year?!
Post # 13
@Laceymae: who the fuck cares?! excuse my language but your wedding is after hers so what would be the big deal!? Have your wedding when you want it. She’s being a ridiculous bridezilla bitch!
Post # 14
I think your friend has lost her mind. I could see giving her some time for her honeymoon if you wanted her at your wedding.. but the whole year? Yeah she’s nuts. I’m sure she’ll be telling you when you can have a baby next.
Post # 15
@HisIrishPrincess: that’s what I said! Is she going to dictate when her friend can get pregnant?
Post # 16
Thanks guys! I guess I’m just nervous. She called and text me maybe 20-30 times yesterday and asked me the FOR SURE date and was bothering me about it.