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my hubbys birthday is june 15th and our wedding date june 23rd
thinking if the dates are too close together seems like overthinking to me..... am i missing something?
would a wedding on labour day weekend be more/less expensive?
Nope, both of our birthdays are in December but:
Well I can see both points. Having it close to his birthday might be a good thing because he will remember it. But I can see where have two sep. celebrations would be nice.
I honestly would go with Septmeber 5th that way people are able to make it easier. And you can always just delay your honeymoon or trip so you can go when the leaves are changing.
* I missed that last part I say go with what your FI wants he is the one most important and it is his birthday! Your guest will make it if they can! Sorry!
We got married on my birthday. :) It's kinda annoying, but it was fun then!
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Our wedding is August 7th and my birthday is the 8th. I am expecting big gifts in the future! LOL
Our wedding won't be too close to either of our birthdays (or any other real event), but it will be cutting it close to the start of classes. =) We're thinking labour day weekend, 2012 (which means we'll probably have the wedding either August 31st, September 1st, or September 2nd).
We'll be on our honeymoon during my birthday!!! I actually didn't even take that into account when we booked our venue, but than I was like O.M.G. we'll be on vacation every year for my birthday! Haha.
I know my mom and dad are like: Ms.HymanRoth, did you do this specifically so you can celebrate your bday on vacation every year? Lol. I love it.
We're getting married on 9/25/2010, 5 days after my 25th birthday.
Actually I was thinking about this the other day... our bdays are both in June
FI's bday is June 25
Our wedding is September 25
Christmas is December 25
its like a celebration every quarter of the year... not even planned lol
Our wedding is on my birthday. My FI says it is the one way I'll never forget our anniversary.
Our wedding was two days after my birthday. It worked out fine, but we'll see how it goes for anniversaries.
My FI's groomsman is getting married September 5, labor day of this year. My birthday is September 12. Our wedding is September 19. It works out fine.
I only worried for the future because I want him to acknowledge my birthday and our wedding anniversary. I think he will.
We may climb half dome in yosemite for my birthday if I am not too bogged down with wedding planning. :)
Good luck picking your date! It's really exciting!
The pros of a holiday weekend definitely might outweigh the cons, but I'd be nervous about clustering celebrations so close together. My birthday is in Jan, and with holidays/vacations in Dec and Valentine's day in Feb, it's been financially stressful for my bf, even though I don't ask for or expect anything fancy. And my mom's birthday, brother and SIL's anniversary, and father's day are all in the same week--I live in a different state, so it was expensive just to send them all flowers this year! So, I think if it was me, I would want to spread the celebrations around...I know having a January bday, come summer I'm ready for a little celebration 
But that's just me! Holiday weekend is definitely a considerate, smart move!
I wouldn't be too worried about clustering birthdays/weddings together. There will always be SOME clustering of holidays and festivities once you get married....your cousin's birthday lands on your best friend's wedding date or so and so's graduation party is during so and so's house warming party.....I think it's just something you'll have to get used to.I mean, unless it's like his 21st or something =]
Just give your FI a raincheck and celebrate his bday a month later when things calm down. We do this a lot because he's military and we haven't actually celebrated a birthday in each others company in 4 years. And it's still JUST as special. If anything, I ntoice he works a little extra hard to make up for it =]. My bday is 4 days after valentines day, and his bday is a month later...it's just how it is. We find ways to do affordable, nice things for each other.
However, holiday weddings are nice! A friend of mine is getting married over labor day and i'm so glad to have a recovery monday! Is it that important that his birthday be overshadowed for the wedding despite convenience?
I wouldn't be too concerned with the dates being so close...unless it really really bothers you!
I am having my wedding on Memorial Day weekend of 2010, so, just like you, I'd be doing a Sunday wedding. At least, at my venue, the price to book on a Sunday or a Friday is $2,000 less than on a Saturday. My FI's bday is about a week and a half earlier, and mine is about 2 weeks later, but I honestly hadn't even though about that...I was looking at the price tag and thinking of what I can do with the extra $2,000 that I'm saving on the venue! So, my personal opinion is to take the Labor Day weekend! ;) Good luck with your choice!
We're not in the active planning stages yet, but our dating anniversary is my birthday as well as FMIL's birthday. I'm not really big into celebrating my birthday (I spend weeks beforehand trying to convince FI not to get me anything, but he always does anyway), so it might be fun if our wedding anniversary were that day, just to give us something else to celebrate...but I don't think it will be. I want to get married in the fall months, maybe October.
This is how it is for us:
I know that the events aren't exactly a day a part from each other but it really doesn't matter to us. When I gave my FI the possible dates he wanted the day we chose for our wedding even though it is a week or so after his bday. The proposal went down on my birthday. It just makes that day even more special
My FH & I had this discussion as our venue only had 2 days available & one was the day after his birthday. It wasn't that big a deal for him so we chose the day after his b-day. Since we live far away from family he will get to have many of his family members/friends here on his birthday and I am sure we will have some sort of "party". I haven't figured out yet how to honor his birthday but I want it to be special. If your FH doesn't mind go for it. I'm thinking surprise birthday cake at rehersal dinner & he & I will probably do something together Thursday. I'll change my mind 50 times between now and then. Let me know if you choose that & come up with any great ideas & I'll do the same!
My fh wanted it close to his b-day. His is the 14th and we're getting married the 29th. When we talked about wedding dates he wanted it close to one of our b-days for some reason. I'm all for the seperate gifts and celebrations so I chose August rather than March (plus the weather is way nicer).
Our wedding will be on August 22 and my birthday is August 28. We will be on our honeymoon for my birthday, which I think (hope!) will be pretty fun... we are planning a super-special dinner for that evening.
However, FI thinks that in the future, he gets to combine our anniversary and my birthday in terms of celebrations/gifts. I am going to have to correct him on that one!!
I've got a doosy for you: my first wedding was ON Mr. Mary Jane's birthday. So his birthday is also my "ex-anniversary". Ack!!
One of the things we did want to do when choosing a date for our wedding is to keep it away from our birthdays. So it's about a month from Mr. MJ's, and 5 months from mine.
We have birthdays before the wedding (dad) and after (MOH) but none too terribly close to the day.
If we had it on Labor Day, it would be right on my birthday. We are having a Saturday wedding Oct 10, which is 3 days after FI's birthday which falls on a Wednesday. It made the most sense for timing of my school year vacation and he didn't gripe.
I think when i suggested his birthday could be part of the pre-wedding festivities (go to the Waterpark with all the families) he was a little taken back. I better ask him again.
I'm not going to give him a combo gift in the future but it will be good because we had a talk about the reasonable cost of gift giving. I think a few hundred dollars is good (for each other), but he spent well over a thousand for me. So maybe if I get him a good birthday and anniversary gift in the future, it will equal his one birthday gift. (I won't really be so strict with the amounts...but just thinking of the benefits.)
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If I were in your situation, I'd probably choose the Labor Day weekend date. It seems like it would be easier for your family/friends to travel at that time. For me, as long as the dates weren't exactly the same, it wouldn't bother me. I have a friend who deliberately chose to have her anniversary exactly one week before her husband's bday. Her joke is "If he doesn't remember our anniversary, then I can 'forget' his birthday!" Ha.
As for us, our anniversary is in May, his bday is in September and mine is in January. To tell the truth, I never thought about birthdays when we planned (although our wedding was the day after an aunt's bday)--mostly just football season!
I dont think it should cause that much stress over dates/celebrations etc.
August 20th - My birthdayAugust 22nd - Our wedding
Then less than a month later on September 17th its FI's bday
There is always going to be 'something'
I like that our wedding is close to my birthday!
Our is spaced out like this...
Week 1 - our wedding
Week 2 - his birthday
Week 3 - my sister's birthday
Week 4 - my dad's birthday
Aahhhh too many presents to buy!
Hubby's bday was only 5 days apart from our wedding date! We actually thought about having it ON his bday except that it was in the middle of the week. But that was just our preference.
Also, we were married around the holiday season so there was a lot going on. Good thing for sales when it comes to buying holiday/anniversary/bday gifts!!! :)
Our rehearsal dinner is doubling as birthday dinner for me since we're getting married the day after our birthday. With school and honeymoon cruise dates it just kind of worked out to be the best option but it doesn't really bother me at all!
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My FI's birthday is March 31 and the wedding is April 10th. We wanted our wedding in March because that's both our birthdays and we met on his birthday. But the venue didn't work with our dates.
Some things to keep in mind about a holiday weekend:
1. If people have to fly by plane it is sometimes harder to find flights that are cheapier and if they are fying on points or buddy passes they will have a hard time getting on the flights. We just experienced that with 4th of July. Our friend got married that weekend in Hawaii and we can fly standby- He's a pilot. We couldn't get on a flight because the seats were taken and the standby list was long.
2. Some guests may have family reunions and such that they will have to attend vs. your wedding. So you may cut some of your guests out. That may not be of concern but just a thought.
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My FI and I are currently tossing around either 09/05/10 or 09/25/10. There are some pros and cons to both.
09/05/10
PROS: Labor Day weekend, wedding on a Sunday, family traveling don't need to take a vacatoin day because they come out Saturday and go home on Monday :)
CONS: The holiday is several days after my FIs birthday -- his is the 1st; if we want to go somewhere the fall leaves aren't changing yet.
09/25/10
PROS: It's farther away from his birthday, thus feeling like two different celebrations for him and us---don't want to clump them together; the leaves are more likely to be changing then; if we hit the east coast for our honeymoon at a beautiful resort the leaves will be be-a-utiful; it'll most likely be a little cooler and don't have to deal with heat on our wedding day.
CONS: The wedding would be on a Saturday, family would either drive a very long ways that day to come or they would take a vacation day on Friday; would need to take more vacation days the days prior to prepare for the upcoming day; it could possibly be colder.....never know with Colorado weather.
So, are you having problems picking a day because your wedding date choice falls too close to another important date? What did/would you do? Although FI is very supportive to have the wedding on the 5th because of the convience of the holiday, he would really prefer it if possible to not be so close to an already "holiday" for us.