Post # 1
My FI and I are currently tossing around either 09/05/10 or 09/25/10. There are some pros and cons to both.
PROS: Labor Day weekend, wedding on a Sunday, family traveling don’t need to take a vacatoin day because they come out Saturday and go home on Monday 🙂
CONS: The holiday is several days after my FIs birthday — his is the 1st; if we want to go somewhere the fall leaves aren’t changing yet.
PROS: It’s farther away from his birthday, thus feeling like two different celebrations for him and us—don’t want to clump them together; the leaves are more likely to be changing then; if we hit the east coast for our honeymoon at a beautiful resort the leaves will be be-a-utiful; it’ll most likely be a little cooler and don’t have to deal with heat on our wedding day.
CONS: The wedding would be on a Saturday, family would either drive a very long ways that day to come or they would take a vacation day on Friday; would need to take more vacation days the days prior to prepare for the upcoming day; it could possibly be colder…..never know with Colorado weather.
So, are you having problems picking a day because your wedding date choice falls too close to another important date? What did/would you do? Although FI is very supportive to have the wedding on the 5th because of the convience of the holiday, he would really prefer it if possible to not be so close to an already "holiday" for us.
Post # 3
my hubbys birthday is june 15th and our wedding date june 23rd
thinking if the dates are too close together seems like overthinking to me….. am i missing something?
would a wedding on labour day weekend be more/less expensive?
Post # 4
Nope, both of our birthdays are in December but:
- September 1st is my neice’s birthday
- September 9 is my dad’s girlfriends birthday
- September 12 is our wedding day!
- September 13 is my dad’s birthday
- September 16 is my FIL’s anniversary
- September 20 is my brother & SIL’s anniversary
- September 23 is my childhood bff’s anniversary
I’m probably missing something else in there also. Actually, I think my FMIL’s birthday is in September. September is a crazy month but we picked it because the weather is pretty decent here in Ohio in September. We had a couple of Saturdays in mind but picked the 12th because that is when our venue is available.
Post # 5
Well I can see both points. Having it close to his birthday might be a good thing because he will remember it. But I can see where have two sep. celebrations would be nice.
I honestly would go with Septmeber 5th that way people are able to make it easier. And you can always just delay your honeymoon or trip so you can go when the leaves are changing.
* I missed that last part I say go with what your FI wants he is the one most important and it is his birthday! Your guest will make it if they can! Sorry!
Post # 6
We got married on my birthday. 🙂 It’s kinda annoying, but it was fun then!
Post # 7
Our wedding is August 7th and my birthday is the 8th. I am expecting big gifts in the future! LOL
Post # 8
Our wedding won’t be too close to either of our birthdays (or any other real event), but it will be cutting it close to the start of classes. =) We’re thinking labour day weekend, 2012 (which means we’ll probably have the wedding either August 31st, September 1st, or September 2nd).
Post # 9
We’ll be on our honeymoon during my birthday!!! I actually didn’t even take that into account when we booked our venue, but than I was like O.M.G. we’ll be on vacation every year for my birthday! Haha.
I know my mom and dad are like: Ms.HymanRoth, did you do this specifically so you can celebrate your bday on vacation every year? Lol. I love it.
Post # 10
We’re getting married on 9/25/2010, 5 days after my 25th birthday.
Post # 11
Actually I was thinking about this the other day… our bdays are both in June
FI’s bday is June 25
Our wedding is September 25
Christmas is December 25
its like a celebration every quarter of the year… not even planned lol
Post # 12
Our wedding is on my birthday. My FI says it is the one way I’ll never forget our anniversary.
Post # 13
Our wedding was two days after my birthday. It worked out fine, but we’ll see how it goes for anniversaries.
Post # 14
My FI’s groomsman is getting married September 5, labor day of this year. My birthday is September 12. Our wedding is September 19. It works out fine.
I only worried for the future because I want him to acknowledge my birthday and our wedding anniversary. I think he will.
We may climb half dome in yosemite for my birthday if I am not too bogged down with wedding planning. 🙂
Good luck picking your date! It’s really exciting!
Post # 15
The pros of a holiday weekend definitely might outweigh the cons, but I’d be nervous about clustering celebrations so close together. My birthday is in Jan, and with holidays/vacations in Dec and Valentine’s day in Feb, it’s been financially stressful for my bf, even though I don’t ask for or expect anything fancy. And my mom’s birthday, brother and SIL’s anniversary, and father’s day are all in the same week–I live in a different state, so it was expensive just to send them all flowers this year! So, I think if it was me, I would want to spread the celebrations around…I know having a January bday, come summer I’m ready for a little celebration But that’s just me! Holiday weekend is definitely a considerate, smart move!
Post # 16
I wouldn’t be too worried about clustering birthdays/weddings together. There will always be SOME clustering of holidays and festivities once you get married….your cousin’s birthday lands on your best friend’s wedding date or so and so’s graduation party is during so and so’s house warming party…..I think it’s just something you’ll have to get used to.I mean, unless it’s like his 21st or something =]
Just give your FI a raincheck and celebrate his bday a month later when things calm down. We do this a lot because he’s military and we haven’t actually celebrated a birthday in each others company in 4 years. And it’s still JUST as special. If anything, I ntoice he works a little extra hard to make up for it =]. My bday is 4 days after valentines day, and his bday is a month later…it’s just how it is. We find ways to do affordable, nice things for each other.
However, holiday weddings are nice! A friend of mine is getting married over labor day and i’m so glad to have a recovery monday! Is it that important that his birthday be overshadowed for the wedding despite convenience?