Post # 1
I need a little advice. I am curently stuck between choosing between the ideal wedding date and venue. My fiancee and I share the same birthday which happens to fall on a saturday next year. It is special to us and decided to get married on that day.
Venue #1 is a golf club, very pretty and available on the right day.
Venue #2 is comparable in price, EXTRA SUPER awesome inside, in the beautiful old port of Montreal BUT already booked that day.
What do I choose? I would be sad that we didn’t get married on our joint birthday because it’s special and romantic, but i’d probably regret not taking the awesome venue….. help!
Post # 3
I’d definitely pick the better venue.
Post # 4
I personally would pick the ideal venue, too.
ETA: On second thought, it’s easy for me to say that because we weren’t heartset on a date. Is it more important to you to celebrate your anniversary together on your birthday every year, or to have your wedding day take place in your dream venue?
Post # 5
My initial instinct is to advise you to stick with the date, but the shallow side of me (hee!) is compelled to remind you that, well, if you get married on your birthday, you’ll be receiving one gift for both occasions for the rest of your life – but on the flip side, you can also give him one present for both occasions too…so, you know. If that’s cool with you, then stick with the date because it’s so special!
Otherwise, pick the venue you like better, maybe 6 months from your birthday, so that twice a year, you guys have something awesome to celebrate! 🙂
(P.S. I get where you’re coming from, because my SO’s birthday is exactly two weeks before mine, in the same month!)
Post # 6
i’d go with the venue.
We decided to not set a date and wait until we found the perfect place and work with their available dates.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
I’d definitely pick the better venue.
Partly because, if you get married on your birthday, then you won’t have a separate anniversary to celebrate. It’s really nice having an anniversary in the middle of the year to look forward to and celebrate, and having separte birthday celebrations!
Trust me, your wedding day will be special and romantic, because it’s your wedding day. It doesn’t have to fall on a particular date to be special and romantic! We got married on November 10th, and before our wedding that date had zero significance to us… now it’s my favorite day of the year 🙂
Post # 9
@Mrs. Wallaby: I was just about to say how I like having our wedding anniversary separate from other things. It’s pretty special all on its own!
Post # 10
@anjfro: i would go with the better venue. but you have to be the one to decide if you like the better venue or the date better.
personally, i would not chose to base it on that date because in the back of my mind, i would think that if divorce or something bad happened, then the wedding anniversary (or lack thereof) would always be associated with my birthday.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I’d go with the venue so that you have two things to celebrate, and the date remains special simply because of the birthdays
Post # 12
I’d definitely pick the better venue. Also because I personally would want to make my anniversary as far away from my birthday as possible, I love celebrations spread throughout the year, if you have both birthdays and your anniversary all on the same day, what do you have to look forward to the rest of the year? (also, as a PP said, sad but true, people divorce, and that will super taint your birthday forever)
Post # 13
Don’t get married on your birthdays. It will lessen the specialness (and the celebrations, etc) for the rest of your lives. Birthday parties = group activities. Anniversary = special intimate time. Keep them separate and go for the extra awesome venue!
Post # 14
We didn’t have a date in mind that we particularly cared about, so we just took what happened to be the only available Saturday at our venue, so I voted venue. 🙂
Post # 15
I personally chose the date over the venue because I really wanted to get married on our 8 year anniversary. We have to get married in June if we wanted to get married next year and I couldn’t justify getting married on any other weekend around our anniversary b/c it didn’t feel right. So when I found out the place I was originally interested in was booked on June I ended up just looking elsewhere.
Good news for me is that I ended up being much happier with the second choice venue than I ever would have been with what I thought was my end all, be all, first choice venue.
Post # 16
I’m with Belle, I like birthdays and anniversaries to be split so that we can have different times to celebrate. We both have October birthdays, so getting married in May was perfect for us. We did want to have it in April, but our venue was not available then, so we went with what was available because it is a very romantic and wonderful venue!