Wedding date woes of a medical student

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@DrAK:  I would plan your wedding for spring and hope your brother can make it. I think when push comes to shove he may be much more flexible and right now because it is so far away he feels like he can control it somewhat and you wont care. The only people needed there for a wedding are you and your FI and while I would be super sad if my little bro couldn’t make it to my wedding as we are fairly close I would not push it years and years out or risk having to cancel it because of residency and spend 6000 extra and I know my brother may give me crap at first but then when that years season started he would do his darndest to make sure he could come. You could always skype him in as well or have him come the day after or before if at all possible to spend part of that weekend with you

Post # 4
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845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@DrAK:  You HAVE to do what is ideal for YOU. Despite the rumors of the abusive, with all this time to plan, it’s likely your brother can work something out. As you know, being in medicine, there ARE indeed some commitments we make that we simply can’t get out of in life. I really can’t believe that a college sports competition is one of those things, unless it’s a trial for the Olympics or something! Plus, who knows where he’ll be over two years from now?! He could lose interest completely in crew, transfer schools, or be injured and not able to participate! But in general, a sibling’s wedding is one of those few “big deal” life events in which people tend to be pretty accommodating about. 

 

Post # 5
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58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@remijp:  

I agree. Do what is best for you. Who knows what your brother will be doing then. But it’s your wedding, what will do you do if you end up being in residency already?? That seems tough. Book the date that will give you the least amount of stress.

Post # 6
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309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Only because I am going through my brother starting his residency… but don’t all residencies start July 1? 

As a college coach I totally say that family comes first but if it’s our season finals or whatever I wouldn’t be thrilled to lose a teammate- but what can you do? Again, you cant assume he’ll still be in that situation 3 years out.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

FI and I were engaged after vet school, but are having a long engagement because of internships/specialty internships/residencies.  I think given your schedule you need to pick a date that works for you, beacuse honestly your schedule is less flexible than any other guest.  I did know other students that got married during summers off, could you get married between third and fourth year?

You know your schedule better than anyone, and if you are going for a residency you won’t really have a lot of time to take off and would have to wait even longer to get married.  One of the residents at my internship last year took a week off during his surgery internship and they didn’t want to give him the time off for his own wedding!  It took a lot of fighting on his part to get the time off.  If there are only a few dates that will work for you I think you need to just commit and everyone else will have to deal with it.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@DrAK:  I would do what’s best for you. I’m in nursing school and a year and a half ago planned my wedding date according to when I should be out of school… haha yeah that didn’t happen right. I’ve never gone into dec even with finals, and my last day of regular class is dec 6, my wedding is dec 7 and finals week is dec 9-14th. We considered changing the date to after my finals week… but we really wanted to keep the date and whatnot. It’s gonna be one hell of a ride, but it’ll be worth it.

I really hope your brother can make it though.

Post # 11
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81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@DrAK:  my fiancé is in med school. U should have some time off to study I believe he had 6 weeks not to mention fourth year is a whole lot more cake compared to the other years. I believe he also is setting time aside to go for interviews so I think u have a little room to wiggle. I mean he had 6 weeks each year to prepare for step. Fourth year so far is shaping up to be not as bad as the other 3 years. He doesn’t have many exams or quizzes like the other 3 years

Post # 12
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81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

So that bwing said maybe u can work it in when u have time to go for your interviews

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